#Decode4daughters
I've been single woman parent of 3 daughters, now well educated and married
I belong to 14th batch AIIMS Delhi and I preferred to say No to selective abortions to get a son after husband walked out from my self acquired flat FF the only security for me,besides my degrees from AIIMS Delhi and UK
I went to Women's organisation, local police, only to be labeled as frustrated because of husband walking out rightfully
Daughters got best of education from renowned universities And top school DPS Mathura Road nursery class to 12th
Daughters have brought laurels despite antisocial anti daughters people
Builder's mafias cum lawyers haven't been kind to 4 of us to Live peacefully. My water connection was snapped off June 1998. I lived in ISKCON guest house for a month till new connection issued by DJB.
Barsati floor has blocked me to keep water reservoir
Before going to work I fill water reservoir kept on my first floor.
Barsati floor owner has blocked all common areas of our building
We have been taunted by barsati floor owner, squatter on ground floor while living in building,foundation made during 60s ,FF and barsati floor added 1981. Completion Certificates, MCD approved maps have no value for them
I've written complaints to relevant authorities MCD Police during past 30 years when verbal, visual and mudslinging and character assassination started going rounds in my colony . It's a strong case for lawyers but I am hoping for Delhi government to clean up Delhi. I'm working for charitable centers.
My only security is through my patients and work ethics
Despite builders mafias cum lawyers Beti Padao aur Beti Bachao
Girl child raised as confused person toiled hard to study more to win over family members. Family members used her only to throw her out. Lessons learned-look upto yourself and not others to win over Everyone in the wild world
Girl child shouldn't expect Validation from home
Life of Indian Women
- Born (often disappointment if not a boy)
- Raised as "paraya dhan" – temporary family member
- Study but only till marriageable age
- No real hobbies – learn cooking, cleaning & household chores instead
- Constant pressure to be fair, slim & "homely"
- Treated as burden – dowry talks start early
- Compete for "good" arranged match
- Marry & move to husband's house
- Adjust to in-laws, taunts & control
- Produce male child (or face blame)
- Sacrifice career & dreams for family
- Handle all housework + emotional labour
- Endure silent abuse or expectations forever
- Die (often after lifetime of adjustments)
Still get labelled "demanding" or "modern" for wanting basic respect. Indian families aren't always kind to daughters.
Father of this girl needs to be tested. He's greedy for money,using children.Daughter arranged for rich guy,his son was to be engaged to Daughter of rich guy,father of boy who was murdered. So much has happened past years when Daughter was a Teen,how come father Not Aware?
This case needs an intensive psycho analysis of both the accused. And once done must be made public for lessons to be learnt. @PuneCityPolice@mailshiv@ndtv and a lie detector test too.
Dishonest men and women make news by hiding facts. No News is Good News. Marriage still Retains Sanctity if both are Honest,Hardworking, Earning money along with responsibility of Children and Home, Not Running after Inheritances.Good to See Such Couples Around in India/ Elsewhere
If Indian men are truly so oppressed by #alimony, maintenance & “false cases”...
Simple solution: Just stop marrying.
No marriage = No alimony.
No kids = No maintenance.
Total freedom!
Problem solved?
Or is the real issue something else?
Honest answers only.
#IndianMarriages #DesiParents
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A tight slap on India's Reservation Politics !
I've to share my experience with Yuvas who are working hard to earn enough money to build their assets and these Yuvas don't waste money on 1cr weddings,don't yearn to get dowry or alimony. It's a colorful world 🌎. Looking at them isreassuring that All isn't Lost to Power of ₹
Forget the older generation and the things they linked to respect.
In today's world, who will a man earning 5L per month respect, love & care for more?
1. A non-working kind, feminine woman, who is a homemaker & primary caregiver.
Or,
2. A 50k per month earning woman who neither has the time to take care of home, nor has the money to contibute to finances.
Or,
3. A comparable 4L per month working woman who contributes to everything, and expects her man to contribute to everything too.
I say it's the first one or third one.
The 2nd one is the most screwed and stressful dynamic.
What do you think?
I'm happy to have taken decision for my daughters at age 16+ and didn't consider them to be adults enough at 18.Communication with daughters was reason based, telling them to build their lives based on degrees, having made my life based on my degrees, MBBS AIIMS 14th batch onwards
Have no interest in defending anyone and it is irresponsible as a columnist to comment on a sub-judice case. I do mention that if they did it it’s pure evil ( read col).
However some cases are an opportunity to bring out broader discussions about society which this incident does and hence that’s what I have done.
Please don’t suggest otherwise. Separately, big, big fan of your work.
1CR was asked by Siya from father of Ketan? Wedding shopping? No, she handed over 1Cr to her boy friend for 'their' future after eliminating Ketan. Easy money to be Aquired Legally. Father of Siya wanted his son to get married to daughter of this 100 times richer than him because of his real estate business.
Thank you @chetan_bhagat for taking it sportingly and appreciating the work I do
First - I read the whole article before saying what I said and I know where you're coming from
I do agree that cases like these invite us to introspect on issues that are plaguing the society & those we seldom wish to talk about
But I certainly don't agree on putting this case in the basket you tried to
Siya is not someone who didn't have a voice. Not someone who didn't know what she was doing. She's perfect example of criminals who thought they had hatched a perfect plan. It discomforts you or the larger society because we presume that women are always victims of circumstances
They're NOT. Infact it is this very presumption that just so many take advantage of & also get away owing to their gender.
The question we ought to ask is not why Siya couldn't take NO but why so many women are finding it easy to destroy an innocent life rather than taking accountability for decisions they make in life
Behind this murder, there are countless cases where a woman didn't say no, got married & then put plethora of false cases on husband just because he was an easy scapegoat
We deal with such cases everyday. Those men are choked along with their families every single day for no fault
So the real question is - is it time to gauge crimes irrespective of Gender or always find an excuse if a woman commits it
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@MCD_Delhi illegal constructions added above and below my first floor flat despite Complaints to @MCD311 constructions are going on leaving little space on Common areas, for others to come out of building or to go insiside
Barsati floor owner has added illegal rooms and toilets.
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This girl is apparently a doctor, yet she is publicly mocking a cadaver.
A cadaver is not a prop, or an object for cheap humour. It is a human being who chose to donate their body for medical education and scientific advancement after death.
When students enter medical college and step into the dissection hall, they take a cadaveric oath, a solemn pledge that serves as a tribute to body donors. The cadaver is regarded as the student's "first teacher" to foster empathy, ethics, gratitude, and respect for human dignity.
During my first year of MBBS, our cadaver was a retired Brigadier. We treated him with dignity because we understood that we were learning from a person who had made a conscious, and rare in Indian society, decision for the benefit of future patients and future doctors.
Mocking a cadaver and making lewd remarks about the body's private parts is not edgy, funny, or bold. It reflects a complete failure to understand one of the most basic ethical principles taught in medicine: respect for human dignity, even after death.
It may or may not attract liability under the BNS, but it is unquestionably conduct that falls far below the ethical standards expected of a medical professional.
The @NMC_IND should take cognizance of this matter and ensure that such behaviour has consequences.
There was also a boy on the same show who made derogatory remarks about a girl who was apparently his date, and he is rightly facing the consequences of his actions. This girl should be held to the same standard.
Sometimes best education for daughters make them taller than their single women parents who Dared to Educate daughters despite societal taunts
We should be prepared to face the colorful world of India where people have time to be peeping toms
I was thinking about the lives of daughters, especially those who are the only child of their parents, or families blessed only with daughters. One day, every daughter gets married and leaves the home where she was raised. She moves into a new family, builds new relationships, and together with her husband is often expected to care for his aging parents as they grow older.
But what about her own parents?
They are growing old too. They have spent their entire lives loving, nurturing, educating, and supporting their daughter. Yet, as age catches up with them, society often assumes that they must manage on their own, or somehow find a way to cope without the same support that their son-in-law's parents receive.
Why is it that the responsibility of caring for elderly parents is so often seen as belonging primarily to the son and his family? Why are a daughter's parents expected to silently accept loneliness, dependence, or neglect simply because they do not have a son?
Shouldn't parents on both sides be valued and cared for equally? After all, one set of parents gave birth to and raised the daughter, while the other raised the son. Both made sacrifices. Both invested their lives in their children. Both deserve love, dignity, and support in their old age.
It feels unfair that, in many cases, the daughter and her parents are the ones expected to make the greater sacrifice. Love, responsibility, and gratitude should not be determined by gender or tradition. If marriage is a union of two people and two families, shouldn't the care and concern for aging parents be shared equally as well ?
PS : As I am in that phase in life where I am being pressurized to marry, this reflection always bothers me ! Who will take care of my aging parents if I am gone ? Clearly, my parents do not have convincing answers !
Save your daughters from dowry demanding grooms and Save your sons from brides eyeing easy money through 498A.
Parents need to be cautious. Daughters don't become # #parayadhan after marriage
Easy Money Hurts Nobody, specially greedy Parents helped by Greedy lawyers.
What's going home for married woman?
Separated women aren't accepted at marital homes.
These are Nowhere women unless they have capacity of earning money through their degrees.
Alimony/ Dowry is asked by women/men as easy money.
There's No Home for Separated Stigmatized Women
It is 43° temperature outside right now. A parcel man just came to deliver. He was wearing a gamcha to save himself from the scorching heat.
This man would run around the whole day working to earn money for his family. By the end of the day the least he would probably expect is to have a meal cooked at home
As I saw him I thought of a High Court ruling today where Milords have said that a woman refusing to do household chores isn't cruelty. Marriage is a partnership of equals. There was another case yesterday where High Court said that a woman meeting her ex lover & being found in his house cannot be called Adultery.
With all respect to these Judges, my only question is - while we have several laws that women can avail remedy under if a husband doesn't perform his marital obligations, what recourse do men have if wife refuses to contribute to anything inside the home after marriage ? She doesn't cook, doesn't take care of the house, doesn't do a job, doesn't take care of any responsibility and even talks to her ex-lover all day?
I agree most women are extremely devoted to their families but increasingly there's an entitled lot that just wants to scroll social media, demand maids for all chores, refuses to contribute a penny, many rekindle past affairs and feel everything is responsibility of husband and he can't say a word if she doesn't want to do anything
I know of so many cases where the woman went back to her home on smallest of fights regarding lifestyle or over above mentioned conduct
And then several criminal cases are filed on the man. Eventually he has to pay a huge amount to settle.
Unfortunately men cannot even talk about this, otherwise they're called Patriarchal, Misogynist n what not.
Woman Should Prefer to Live Alone, the moment she realizes Selfishness of People She's belonging to in present because of Selfish people She's belonged to in Past.
It's Better to Go on Living instead of pretending to Belong
Saving Lives is more Important than getting Killed.
Can women Live alone their whole life without getting married?
30+ woman
If women don’t find true love and I don’t want to get married, how can she live my whole life alone and single?
Mom and dad won’t always be with her . Her Brothers and sisters will get busy with their own lives.
Friends will sometimes be there, sometimes not. In that case, what options do she have?
Even if she buy my own house or flat, won’t she feel very lonely sometimes?
Please give some practical ideas or ways…..
And how to manage health support after age 60? You can hire a helper or support staff, but as a single woman, how can you trust them?