It's so selfish to enter someone's life, see that they're a loving, cheerful, and good person, and decide to ruin their peace because you haven't dealt with your own issues. Leave people alone if you have no intention of showing up with sincerity.
im an actual romantic. i want it all. corny letters, long paragraphs professing your love for me, dates, handholding, PDA, everything. i dislike the normalized idea of safe love. i want to be loved loudly and unapologetically. none of that half shit
A real sign of healing is when you stop taking everything personally. You begin to see that people act from their own patterns, their own wounds, their own stories. Their behavior is about them, not you. And the moment you understand that, life feels lighter.
Communication is not arguing. Somebody telling you what they need is not arguing. Somebody telling you to do more so they feel loved by you is not arguing. Somebody telling you how you hurt them is not arguing. Hearing what you don't want to hear is not arguing! Speaking on what bothers them is not arguing... You learn to communicate when you actually and truly care✍🏾