Who do you want to leave her for?
You have shared intimacy with this woman outside of marriage. Now that the guilt is catching up, your first instinct is to run away under the guise of stopping the haram. You do not break someone into pieces and then claim you are trying to be righteous.
Her fear is valid. You put her in a very vulnerable spot. If you sincerely love each other and the true goal is marriage, running away is the worst thing you can do right now. It does not erase the sin. It just makes you an oppressor.
Here is what needs to happen:
Cut the physical intimacy immediately. Put a hard boundary by avoiding any physical contact. Stop any form of romantic talks. You can stop the sin without abandoning the person. Make sincere Tawbah together and ask Allah to forgive you both for crossing His limits. Give a lot of Sadaqah too.
After your sincere repentance and sticking to the limits of Allah, then step up. Go and see her family. You do not need millions to do a Nikkah. However, be sure you have a stable source of income.
Make your relationship halal. Stop dragging her along and feeding her hopes, only to threaten her with a breakup when things feel heavy. Correct your mistakes and marry the woman you claim to love.
I hope this helps you both.
@anabismatli@matchalissa@DuDu_dedudu yang pasti Ahlussunnah Wal Jamaah la. kau bukan pengikut nabi muhammad ke? syiah ke? ke ajaran mana yg ngajor poligami bermula dgn maksiat ni.
@anabismatli@matchalissa@DuDu_dedudu kalau ikut sunnah bini kau kena ada 4 orang dikalangan kurang upaya dan janda tua. selain tu kau pengikut saitan cult sesat
@anabismatli@matchalissa@DuDu_dedudu dia pun bukan perdana menteri nak beriya rukun damai masyarakat sngt. hanyalah jantan barua tak bermaruah je level level dia
@anabismatli@matchalissa@DuDu_dedudu aik habis waktu jantan berbini duk bermaksiat sana sini cari awek cari scandal tu tak dosa? tak fikir amanah anak bini kat rumah? kalau nak poligami ikut sunnah nabi cari janda tua yg kesempitan, perempuan yg kurang upaya takde siapa jaga. baru betul. ni cari awek cantik berhias
@MrNaqiu@anina_faris bapak dia suami dia abang dia adik dia anak lelaki dia. adalah lelaki menjadi wali dia. perempuan amanah kepada lelaki tu. so tak sama. yang lelaki mcm musibat yang nak dielakkan tu adalah lelaki lain contoh mcm kau ni entah dari mana muncul merentan mcm takde otak.