Acts of service men are dangerously attractive.
Fixing problems, making sure you’ve eaten, charging your phone, carrying your things… that’s romance to me.
It was my birthday last week, and I was sitting in the breakroom at work when a younger coworker asked what my partner had gotten me. She already had her phone out, completely ready to see a picture of a designer bag, a massive $500 floral arrangement, or a viral-worthy dinner receipt.
I told her the truth: He spent his entire weekend covered in grease, replacing the alternator and brake pads on my car, and then he quietly paid off the remaining balance of my student loan that had been giving me rolling panic attacks for six months.
She gave me this deeply tragic, pitying look. “Oh. Well, that’s practical, I guess,” she said. “But you deserve to be spoiled. You know, the princess treatment. A man who really loves you wants to show you off, not just do chores. That's kind of the bare minimum.”
I just stared at her.
What she didn’t see was that for the last half of the year, I had been losing sleep, my hair was thinning from financial stress, and I was terrified to drive my car on the highway. My partner took his only two days off from his own grueling job, completely wrecked his hands under my hood, and drained his own savings, just to hand me back my peace of mind.
The internet has completely rotted our definition of romance. We have been brainwashed to believe that if a man isn't performing his love for an audience, buying things that look highly aesthetic on a TikTok reel, then he isn't doing enough.
We are out here casually calling a man's literal blood, sweat, and absolute financial sacrifice "the bare minimum" just because it doesn't come in a shiny box with a ribbon.
If you still get along with extended family, cousins, aunties & uncles consider yourself rich in life. A huge blessing so many people are losing now
humble. Allah has blessed you with a spouse, but you choose what you gain from this marriage and how it will benefit you in the hereafter. May Allah swt continue to grant us his mercy and reunite us with our spouses in the hereafter امين
Two years of marriage and the only piece of advice that I will remember is from my dad. Your purpose in this world is to please Allah swt, your marriage is another means in which you get to please Allah. Treat is as you treat your other forms of ibadah, be present, patient&
i saw a TikTok about a girl saying how she doesn't stay mad for long because either she's going to figure it out, or there's nothing that can be done about it. and as simple as that sounds is as simple as it is really
Right now life is teaching me the law of detachment. nothing is really yours, you have to be comfortable with not being attached, just enjoying life for what it is & moving on when it’s time.
I can easily tell when someone has fallen for the idea of me and not me. It’s really simple kiddos, they never ask questions to get to know you more. In their mind they already know you.