The internet constantly tells women that men are terrible listeners because the second a woman starts venting about her day, the man immediately interrupts to offer a logical solution. We are taught to view this as him being dismissive, emotionally unintelligent, or invalidating our feelings.
The strict, unpopular truth is that to a man, fixing the problem is his absolute highest, most desperate form of empathy.
Women vent to connect; we want our partner to just sit in the dark with us and validate the emotion. But men are hardwired to view the woman they love being in distress as an active threat. When he immediately offers a spreadsheet, a strategy, or a solution to your problem, he isn't trying to silence you. His brain has recognized that something in the world is hurting his partner, and his immediate, visceral instinct is to assassinate the thing causing you pain.
We constantly shame men for "not just listening," completely ignoring the fact that his attempt to fix your life is his most profound declaration of love.
"I auditioned for King Richard. I'm getting the same opportunity as a dude who went to school four years. I can't even read a script for real. We're getting the same opportunity. It ain't just gatekeeping to my benefit. You need to keep me out of spaces I ain't got no business being in. ... I'm Pro-Gatekeeping." - @RyanDavisComedy
🚨💣 Conor Gallagher to Tottenham, here we go! The player has just informed Atléti about his decision to join #THFC.
Spurs set to pay €40m fee, permanent deal to beat Villa.
Aston Villa agreed deal with Atlético today but leave race as player didn’t give final green light.
if the Eagles lose they have no one to blame but Nick Sirianni for appointing a terrible OC because he's a pal & then not reassigning play calling when it was clear that the OC was horrible
wasting an elite defense because you wanted to let your buddy call offensive plays