AND SO ACTUALLY THE REASON I’M SINGLE IS BECAUSE I HAVE PRAYED FOR A TRUE LOVE AND NOBODY IS MAKING THE CUT YET. I’M PROTECTED FROM MEDIOCRITY. THAT’S THE ONLY REASON. NO FURTHER QUESTIONS AT THIS TIME. THANK YOU.
Your friends in healthy, happy relationships aren’t telling you what it takes to get there because you’d call it cringe and judge them for being gooey …. so i’ll tell you: you need to be approx 10x more willing to melt into silliness and giggles than you think at all times, and
trying to teach my little sister that there is a lot of prudence in just being stern and unlikable in the right situations. you can make life so much easier for yourself
you have to move through life and love assuming the answer is yes. assuming people want to see you, help you, hire you, hug you, love you. otherwise, every bid for connection or growth will be laced in fear and desperation. and people can smell that from a mile away.
Dance for every horror you can't scream out of your body. Move for every ache you can't pluck out. Sway your body for every emotion you can't name. Sit in the sun to keep your body from going cold with grief. Pleasure yourself so your body doesn't forget transcendence.
It doesn’t matter how many books you read (or pretend to read), it only matters how many ideas get inside of you and become permanent architectural features of your inner life, and what the quality of those ideas is.
If you run a full bottleneck analysis in your life and actually get to the bottom of the thing (no matter how many layers deep) - the last bottleneck/domino will always be an emotion you're resisting. That's it. That's how funny and wonderful the actual human condition is.
everyone wants life to feel like sex and the city but no one wants to accidentally stay out way too late on a random weeknight or show up at a friends place unannounced
I had a professor confide in me today that he doesn’t go to Burger King because he doesn’t have the correct cultural capital to order there and is thus uncomfortable doing so. He said it is a working class place and it would be symbolic violence for him to step foot in there.
I can't quite articulate this yet, but it seems to me that many of the vibrant, most interesting people are the ones that often don't code-switch based on who they're interacting with. They don't filter and squeeze their personalities through whatever funnel they believe is required of them. There is not one separate, fragmented version of them that exists for their children, and one for their co-workers, and one for the stranger they met at the bar. They simply are who they are.