a girl on tiktok said “healing is so hard because it is a constant battle between your inner child who is scared and just wants safety.... your inner teenager who is angry and just wants justice.... and your current self-who is tired and just wants peace." and it hits me hard.
In ten years time these boys will be blaming women for their failures. They will convince themselves that they've been deliberately left behind and women are to blame.
This is the kind of thinking that makes women give men endless chances, but when a friend slips up, they cut them off instantly without even trying to talk it through, justifying it with “you’re my friend, you should’ve known”. I’ll never understand that. Men receive so much grace shame, that’s why vahi pengela so.