A lot of the things we say about ourselves probably started as simple observations.
You notice that you work harder than most people, so you start seeing yourself as hardworking. You avoid social situations for a few years and eventually decide you’re an introvert. You make a few bad financial decisions and “I’m bad with money” becomes part of the story.
Even the flattering labels work the same way. The responsible one. The ambitious one. The creative one. The person everyone can rely on.
At some point, these stop being descriptions of how you have behaved and start becoming explanations for who you are.
Do something for long enough and eventually it stops being something you do and becomes something you are.
That sounds harmless, and sometimes it is useful. If you see yourself as someone who trains every morning, you probably don’t have to negotiate with yourself every morning about whether to train.
But the same thing happens with identities that are no longer useful.
You’ve spent ten years saying you’re not creative, so you don’t try something creative. You’ve always been cautious with money, so taking a risk now feels somehow unlike you. You’ve built a reputation for being the person who has everything under control, so asking for help becomes strangely difficult.
You are no longer looking at the situation in front of you. You are asking what the person you believe yourself to be would do.
There is an old idea in the Upanishads called neti, neti.
Not this. Not this.
It comes from a much larger inquiry into what the self actually is, but there is something useful in the method itself. You keep taking away the things you normally use to define yourself.
Your profession. Not this.
Your personality. Not this.
Your beliefs, your status, your relationships, the story you have built about yourself. Not this.
The interesting part is not getting to some mystical answer at the end.
It is noticing how many decisions you are making today because of something you decided about yourself years ago.
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