When God blesses you, learn to ignore the background noise.
Cut off all negativity and negative people out of your life, live in the present, and thrive every day.
@jon_d_doee The desire for the second child may arise in the future when the marriage hits the comfort zone with the husband, and she will end up going back to the baby daddy. Female nature is selfish and ruthless.
So for me, I go with option 1
When you become excessively dependent on someone, the Almighty will detach you from the person just to show you where your strength lies. Remember, we need people but never as much as we need the Almighty.
Don’t worry about being popular and loved by the masses. If you choose to get closer to the Almighty and live a life of obedience, you’ll find yourself walking alone mostly. It may seem daunting and frightening at times. But don’t worry. He’s your Guide and Protector.
It’s human nature to take things for granted. Don’t put things off till tomorrow. Be disciplined enough to do it today. Things might be different tomorrow. The ones you love may no longer be there. Nothing is guaranteed. That’s a reality. What if tomorrow never comes for you??
repetition is the only language your brain understands. neuroplasticity doesn't care about your potential or your dreams, it only counts how many times you fired the same circuit today.
@marriedmn When men cheat it’s purely physical. We may not even remember her name. Sad but true. When women cheat, it’s hypergamy. Her survival instincts have “chosen” the “better man” for her. You are now her second choice, or worse. Knowing this never gets better.
@Symply_rhoda1 Before going for the date she already knew she was going to turn him down with a no.
The question is! Why would you put a person in a position where he invests in you, yet you aren't into him.
@GloriousGod01 Women only hold the key and power over sex. In other words, they choose who to fvck, while the key to commitment and marriage is still held by men.
The only way to fix broken polarity is to disrupt it.
That’s why most men avoid the solution
it requires watching their wife struggle, and possibly risking the relationship while things reset.
A man has to stop enabling the dynamic and take back direction, even if it means she loses some comfort.
That’s the hard part.
Most won’t face it, so they leave and repeat the same pattern in the next relationship.
both people to go through discomfort in the process
But if they both endure it, the relationship can be rebuilt the right way.
If you're starting late in marriage as a man.
And you do not have a house of your own.
And you're a salary earner.
Please do not start building a house.
Build cash and invest them into a HYIS etc.
Be very disciplined about it.
Build the investments to a point where the yields can be good enough to be catering for your responsibilities.
Use the yields to be raising your kids.
In case something happens to your job, or you are 60 and still have kids to pay their fees.
When you're done with raising your kids, you can then use your invested capital to either buy a small house somewhere or build something little, to retire into with your wife.
Then you can be living on stipends from your pensions.
Building or buying a house, is highly capital intensive.
And it takes time.
Your utmost responsibility as a married man, are your kids and wife.
You need constant flow of cash to be sustaining them.
Tying cash down in capital investments such as a house, is good but can be risky.
Unless you're so sure that your income can be sustained for a long time.
Just purchase a land somewhere, and the land value would be appreciating, while you continue to build cash investments.
I don't know if this makes sense.
But if you're a legitimate earner, you should know how difficult and unpredictable it is, to get money.
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