I really have to be careful with the attention I give to men because my curiosity and ability to make people feel seen has given me stalkers, narcissists, & mimics who don’t value me as a person, but are obsessed with the way I love and how I make them feel. I’m too charming without even trying.
I thought about this and realized I believe people who care about you can mistreat you. For me I want to normalize saying "this treatment is unacceptable regardless of how someone feels about me" and move on from there
turns out, reading voraciously, moving your body, loving people without keeping score, protecting your solitude, chasing nothing but your own growth, and occasionally staying out too late with people who make you laugh until it hurts is not a bad way to build a life.