@Ryan_Daigler That was me. Every school in the world should teach children what narcissism is and what a healthy family life looks like in middle school. That could save many of us.
@Wyd_eshuu I shake because I'm scared of my temper & trying to control it in the middle of a confrontation gives me severe anxiety. Like " If this person doesn't stop now I might eventually snap, see black and there's no telling what I might do" . I lose all sense or fear when I snap
The most dangerous people I've ever met genuinely believe they're good. They rewrite every story, dodge every consequence, and carry zero accountability. In their minds, they've never hurt anyone, but somehow everyone else is to blame. That kind of delusion isn't just toxic, it's terrifying.
Good people have high levels of empathy, but once that empathy is exhausted, they switch to a state of objective observation. They see you for exactly who you are, without the filter of their love. This is why their anger feels so cold, it is the absence of the warmth you took for granted
If you dey apply for job via email, send actual pdf's of your documents as attachments, not a link to your cloud storage(Google drive) for your recruiter to access.
I have said before:
A man is god over his woman, and gods do not answer to appeals from transgressors. They turn deaf to pleas from offenders, reject sacrifices, until the full wrath is met.
But what is worth noting is:
silence and violence are how a man traditionally communicates his anger. What decides which one he chooses to use is the risk attached to the other. So, when he is communicating his anger toward a woman, he chooses silence because there is a greater risk in using his other inherent response - violence.
And when he is angry at a man physically more powerful than he is, he chooses, still, silence because there is a greater risk if he resorts to violence.
Silence, or silence treatment then, is restraint. It is anger measured against consequence, expression filtered through risk. And more often than not, what you are witnessing is not indifference, but controlled power choosing not to become destruction.
The device you use to listen to music is so important. Cuz you listen to music in some headphones & hear things you’ve never heard behind the sounds.