Tim

CA & DA survivor active in mental health & suicide prevention groups. CEng, MIET

[Tim @teabagtim1]

Billboards over much of Cumbria today. What are communities and churches doing to recognise and support male victims? @Cumbriapolice @cumbriapcc @VS_Cumbria @safetynetnorth @newsandstar @timesandstar @WhitehavenNews @CarlisleDiocese @CTICumbria @e_ineson https://t.co/RYiIZ2Ndx0

[Tim @teabagtim1]

@ManKindInit I have been thrown out of several organisations that claim to support/listen to male as well as female victims of DA, just for giving ONS figures about male victims and for pointing out multiple examples of training used in my area that contain no examples of adult male victims.

[Tim @teabagtim1]

@MalePsychology @JonHouseIntl @SeagerMJ Here's a link to the UK's Jonathan's House. https://t.co/DX3BRD7IXE

[ManKind Initiative @ManKindInit]

Earlier this week, we said this a typically low sentence because it was a man who was the victim of staking

https://t.co/qg1TrvsCkt

[ManKind Initiative @ManKindInit]

If you are in need of support or know someone who might do - please do contact the excellent Revenge Porn Helpline 👇 https://t.co/5HKojRFZdf

[ManKind Initiative @ManKindInit]

This is an awful case and shows huge range of strategies used against male victims. We hope Mr Evans is getting support.

Summer Marl-Brock lured former partner into a honeytrap before using her phone to film a gang of masked thugs brutally beating him.
https://t.co/il2APSwxYB

[ManKind Initiative @ManKindInit]

"Boys aged 14-17 accounted for 98% of victims of sextortion". Terrible number increase.

All these boys are defined by successive governments as victims of violence against a girl! @IWFhotline @NSPCC @mollyroseorg @ukhomeoffice @MoJGovUK #VAWG #Orwell

https://t.co/HVSmx1Xx31

[ManKind Initiative @ManKindInit]

Thank you all for your support last month 👇- a busy May already under way. Huge thanks to our team including @MaybeMaz and all our supporters!

[ManKind Initiative @ManKindInit]

Report shows 27% of domestic abuse linked suicides feature a male victim. We believe it is higher due to male non-disclosure and police and definitely coroners not believing bereaved families because it was a man. @CollegeofPolice
@PoliceChiefs @TheVKPP
https://t.co/clt7wGfshR

[Tim @teabagtim1]

@JackWDart I'm not sure where your 93% figure comes from but...

[Tim @teabagtim1]

@JackWDart Men make up 51% of people who have been victims of partner abuse from their current partner (ONS) (2024/25)

[𝚃𝙷𝙴 𝚆𝙷𝙸𝚃𝙴 𝚁𝙰𝙱𝙱𝙸𝚃 @White_Rabbit_OG]

Finally 👏👏👏

[Tim @teabagtim1]

@Surviving_LADa That's worse than the "Responding Well" domestic abuse course in Cumbria at which delegates used to be told that male victims are much less likely to come forward, immediately followed by the Duluth Wheel in which all 8 examples of domestic abuse had a female victim.

[Tim @teabagtim1]

@AbusedMenUK Oh the number of domestic abuse courses that are out of date, or that fail to provide case studies of male victims, or insist that domestic abuse is 'gendered', which deters men from seeking support. Some organisations are glad of some advice to help them get it right.

[Tim @teabagtim1]

@SammieB1980 Men, if one of these things in this 5 minute video has happened to you, the survey is for you too. https://t.co/kF8Hw59lHy

[Tim @teabagtim1]

@Niall_Ky @SammieB1980 Some good points & I'm all too well aware that saying DA is 'gendered' silences so many men, like you and me. The DA Act & the Statutory Guidance doesn't say it's gendered, so I agree with you. I have followed Sam for many years and I think she's genuine. Please do the survey.

[Tim @teabagtim1]

@JonIrwinLD @SammieB1980 I have had several experiences of that loop, with 3rd sector orgs claiming to support male as well as female victims being very critical indeed and even making false claims whenever I have raised any concerns about bias in training. I'm still very optimistic about @SammieB1980

[Tim @teabagtim1]

@SammieB1980 Interesting and encouraging remark about the voluntary sector. Very sadly, some organisations in the 3rd sector act to silence male domestic abuse survivors who want to help. I have several examples of the harm this does.

[Tim @teabagtim1]

That's great. A short video that was very effective in encouraging men to talk about domestic abuse during a Cumbria Constabulary live domestic abuse event on their Facebook account is here... https://t.co/kF8Hw59lHy

[Samantha Billingham @SammieB1980]

Such a privilege to have male survivor Richard Spencer share and support Our Own Words Survey.

He was such a powerful speaker at the @paullavellefoun conference in Liverpool a couple of weeks ago.

[Samantha Billingham @SammieB1980]

We need to hear from many more male survivors, we need to get their voices heard too 👇

@paullavellefoun @ManKindInit

https://t.co/e22lGgs4tH

[Phil Mitchell:Specialist Working With Abused Males @PhilMitchell83]

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