Went to Whole Foods in Potrero Hill and had a store employee not so discreetly follow me around the store acting like they were restocking.
Being Black in San Francisco is not for the weak. Do better, @WholeFoods .
I should know better than to fly economy when crossing continents, but I should also know better than to work for a startup that won't pay for premium flights. (It's my own startup. Employee count: 2, including my dog. He's in charge.)
what I've learned about dating in sf by setting up thousands of dates for you all:
1. sf doesn't have a dating problem. it has a follow through problem.
2. the "too busy to date" people end up going on the most dates once you remove the time wasting parts of dating apps.
3. most people underestimate how many people would be down to date them. (some overestimate.)
4. biggest predictor of a second date: how much the man listened and whether the venue was a vibe.
5. thursday is the best night for a first date. don't ask me why.
@atelicinvest the postings are up because theyre replacing 3 mid-levels with 1 senior who knows how to prompt, like the jobs exist but theyre not the same jobs anymore
Most young, ambitious people I know struggle with committing to one path or one project. They'll work on something a few months, and then pursue the next shiny object or twitter trend
This is what I recommend to get out of this loop:
> boredom with your current project is not a sign you picked the wrong one. it's a sign you're at the hard part. Look up the Dunning-Kruger effect (spoiler: you are in the valley of despair)
> the next shiny object will always look shinier than what you're currently building. that's just how novelty works. Stop falling for it!
> read biographies of people you admire and follow closely the dates they've reached important milestones. You'll realize there are few and far between. Building something Great is 99% uneventful and boring.
> Trends come and go. There is virtue in commitment. Expertise is built even when no one is paying attention to the industry you're working in.
> take a chill pill. No, seriously. You are NOT falling behind. Just focus on doing what you love, do it well, and you'll be fine
These days, I'm much more excited about dataset releases than model releases. Models come and go and don't compose, whereas good datasets are more enduring and can be studied, used, revised to create better models more broadly. Excited about these 155K coding agent trajectories...just SFT'ing on this data improves SWE-bench Verified massively (23% -> 59.4%).
The biggest mistake I made in life was moving to SF instead of NYC
In my 2 weeks in NYC, I:
- Made more friends than in 3 years in SF
- Saw more girls than in 3 years in SF
- Had more fun than in any month in SF
- As a result, made much more progress
Whenever someone told me they moved to NY I thought “NGMI” as an average SF autist
If you want to build real relationships with people, instead of robots, move to NYC
a few times I’ve self-fulfilling prophecy’d my way out of a relationship.
Girl (who had been interested) didn’t respond for a few days so I was like “omg there must be something wrong with me”, I got risk-averse, I sent some texts that made her think there was something wrong with me