Still in the birthday spirit, enjoy 7 minutes of JOY π
My full drum performance on my wedding day. π₯ Incorporated about 4 genres - went from Igbo highlife to 21st century orchestral fanfare, then gospel music (classic 'Rain on us') to Amapiano (He turned it)
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A THREAD!
Before I got married, I posted my girlfriend's picture often for 8 years, mostly on Whatsapp though.
People will always say things like "Love dey sweet you now, make e no bitter you later oh" or "Hide am just incase e no work".
I actually proposed on the 21st of September in 2024 but posted in January, 2025. Only close friends and family were aware.
So, I'm not saying you should post carelessly neither am I saying you should not continue in your stealth mode.
Just respect other people's standards.
I don't post everything about my life but you see the one I choose to post, I'll post it with my full chest.
You may be surprised to know that I even posted my proposal pictures 4 months after the proposal.
You can advise but do not impose or be sarcastic about it.
You can be discreet and life will still go bad for you. Being "private or secretive" doesn't automatically save you.
Therefore my people, if you want to hide your relationship, marriage, new house, new car, baby's face, matriculation, convocation, etc. that's fine but where you'd be wrong is when you try to impose these practices on other people.
There were several periods I didn't really post frequently, people started dropping comments to ask if we're still together. Earnestly waiting to tell me "I told you". LOL
Today, we're married and all glory to God.
See, there's no manual for this thing.
While some were expressing sincere concerns which of course I understand, I realised that some other people were just putting their insecurities on me. This is what most of us face in different areas of our lives. People expect you to fear what they fear.
My usual replies were "My relationship is private but it's not a secret" or I'll just end the conversation with "I'll still post the next girl if this relationship doesn't work" π
SHE DIDN'T SAY YES!
SHE SAID "OF COURSE" π
LET'S DO LIFE TOGETHER, MY GIRRRLLLLL! β€οΈ
I LOVE YOU, JD!
Dem don propose to me oh! π
π·: @frederiya
π: 11:04 Lounge
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