Aku tidak rapat dengan Ayah dulu kerana ditampar salah baca 'Alphabet' umur 4 Tahun. Dari situ Aku sedar Tentera perlu Rawatan Psychology (Terutama Commando)bila bersara. Commando Melayu lebih parah 'Sakit Jiwa' berbanding 'Bukan Melayu'. Harap @MarkasATM buat Pemulihan 'Wajib'
This little girl is not in the video. She wasn't even born. But she is moved to tears watching her mother and father get married. Why?
Marriage researcher and family therapist Pat Fagan once told me:
"When a child sees their mother loving their father they feel like their mother is loving them. When they see their father loving their mother they feel like their father is loving them. It is the only time in the human experience where you can be loved indirectly. No one's even looking at you or touching you or talking to you, but you feel loved."
That is not the case with a step parent, he said. The child may tolerate the romantic expression. But they do not experience that same circuitous love. More often they feel competition or jealousy.
If every child could order their own world, this is what they would say:
"I want my mom and dad to love me and I want my mom and dad to love each other."
Sometimes that's not possible. Woe to a culture that intentionally denies that to children in the name of adult freedom.
You can read all the books. Watch all the documentaries. Listen to all the stories. But nothing & I mean nothing, will prepare you for certain moments in life until you're standing in them yourself. Marriage. Divorce. Childbirth. Losing someone you love. Parenting. They all look so different when it's your heart on the line. Your choices. Your pain. Your mess. Your miracle. It's easy to sit on the outside with theories, opinions, & assumptions. It's easy to think you'd handle it better. Until life turns to you & says, "Your turn." And suddenly, you understand. You understand the tears. The silence. The fight to keep going. The strength it takes to show up when everything feels heavy. The courage it takes to start over.
Life has a way of humbling us all. So be slow to judge, quick to offer grace, & always remember, what you don't understand today, you just might face tomorrow. We're all just figuring it out as we go. And that's more than okay.
maturing is realizing none of us are easy to be with. It's about who's willing to stay committed to understanding you and actually wants to grow with you
Badak air nampak lunak dan jinak. Tapi saintis anggap badak air sama bahaya dengan singa. Daya gigitannya adalah paling kuat dalam kalangan haiwan darat. Lebih kuat daripada singa & harimau.
500 orang mati diserang badak air setiap tahun berbanding singa (22 orang mati setahun).
Badak air adalah mamalia darat terbesar selepas gajah dan badak sumbu. Beratnya boleh mencecah 1500 kg.
Dalam BI badak air = hippopotamus yang sebenarnya bermaksud "kuda sungai".
Menariknya, susur galur keturunan badak air lebih rapat dengan paus (whale) berbanding badak sumbu. Badak sumbu pula lebih rapat dengan kuda.
Badak air tak ada pemangsa (predator) sebab ia agresif dan saiznya agak besar. Dengan kata lain, di darat singa takut, di air buaya takut dengan badak air.
Mintalah 3 doa ini ketika sujud terakhir dalam solat:
1. Allahumma inni as’aluka husnal khotimah.
2. Allahummarzuqni taubatan nasuha qoblal maut.
3. Allahumma yaa muqollibal quluub tsabbit qolbi ‘ala diinika.
Jika kamu sebarkan, semoga dimudahkan urusanmu di dunia dan akhirat.
Pedas ustaz syihabudin bagi.
Kena ajar sikit lelaki lembik yang aniaya isteri pergi hantar tempat yang membahayakan keselamatan dan maruah wanita.
Lelaki qawwam yang faham agama takkan benarkan isteri mereka join Sumud.
Sore tadi membaca kembali salah satu quote yang entah dari siapa, yang bunyinya:
"A parent's primary responsibility is not their child's day-to-day happiness.".
Children need to experience the full spectrum of human emotions, including sadness, anger, boredom, and disappointment, while in a safe environment. If they are constantly rescued from negative feelings, they never develop the internal coping mechanisms required for healthy adulthood.
Saya sangat suka dengan cara Nabi ﷺ ajar kita untuk menjadi tenang dengan ketidakpastian.
Nabi ﷺ ajar kita supaya kita kawal apa yang kita mampu, apa yang tidak mampu kawal kita serah kepada Allah.
قَالَ رَجُلٌ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَعْقِلُهَا وَأَتَوَكَّلُ أَوْ
Kalau rumah orang lain terbakar, itu bukan masanya nak cakap “Mujur rumah aku selamat sebab ada fire extinguisher "
Samalah bila seorang ibu ditimpa musibah, bukan masanya nak tunjuk kita ni terpaling mak. Anak terpaling selamat di tangan kita.
Musibah boleh datang dalam pelbagai bentuk.
Jaga kata-kata.