@thatsgrose calling them draining is being honest when your the caregiver. you don't say it to them, but pretending it away is just as toxic to the caregiver. this kind of thing treats us as a thing rather than a person who is actually killing themselves to keep them healthy.
Tonight I donned my amateur plumbers hat to clear what i assumed was a clog around a pair of tweezers in my sink.
I was wrong.
6 pair of tweezers, a pimple tool, a knitting needle, 3 earrings, god knows how many bobby pins and a small fidget toy.