As someone once pointed out, one reason men get uncomfortable when you suggest mentoring younger boys is that theyโre in the same dating pool. You canโt coach the kids while competing with them for girls their age range. The more left behind they are, the better for you. ๐คท๐พโโ๏ธ
โSincerely we donโt careโ is crazy because the girls you are supposedly mentoring will live in the same society with the men you donโt care about.๐๐ฟ๐
Q3. Iโve been living with my boyfriend and his 16-year-old daughter for 2 months. (I left my man for him.) I took his daughterโs phone because she refused to do her chores. As I slept, she put vegetable oil in my hair and ruined my $300 wig install. When I woke up, my lace-front was puckered and rolled back toward the center of my head. She left the oil bottle near me so I would know that she did it. My hair could not be redone without washing it. I told him I was gonna kick his daughterโs azz. Him: โWhy are you disciplining her? How are you the authority in my house when you sleeping on my floor?โ FYI: He doesnโt like anyone to sleep in the bed with him so I have a sleeping bag near the foot of the bed; Iโm not sleeping on the floor, I have a sleeping bag. He wonโt pay for a new wig. Advice. #SBCCHAT
Soโฆ I recently discovered kuti Doek & Slay โ hakuna varume. I have never been, and only now did I realizeโฆ no men at the event. Saka tinoonekwa nani?
Yes, yes, I knowโฆ itโs women doing it for themselves, but hear me out: I have a better chance of meeting a decent, nice man grabbing coffee at Sam Levyโs than going to Doek & Slay on a Sunday.
And hereโs the thing - most women going to Doek & Slay are single, decent, with good jobs, entrepreneurs, running businessesโฆ quality. Men should come to Doek & Slay, make it 'Doek & Slay โ Mix 'n' Mingle.' People meet their life partners at such events. Before you know it, men and women will be saying, 'We met at Doek & Slay, and weโve been married for 20 years.'
Just my thoughts. I get it - some will disagree, and thatโs fine.