Engrace Tenny✂️🪡🧵

Unisex tailor🪡🧵✂️, Priceless Damsel🤩🤩🤩, Jesus baby, and proudly Agbafian👌

[MAGGIE PARKER🇳🇬🇬🇧 @Maggiewitdsauce]

Your choice of partner is also a parenting decision.

When choosing someone to build a life with, don't only ask yourself, "Do I love this person?" Ask yourself, "What kind of home can I build with this person?"

Because if children eventually come into that union, they will experience the consequences of a decision they never participated in making.

The person you're attracted to today may become the father or mother your children depend on tomorrow. Their character will influence the atmosphere of your home. Their temper, self-control, emotional maturity, values, work ethic, kindness and ability to resolve conflict will eventually affect more than just you.

Children learn relationships long before they understand relationships.

They watch how Daddy speaks to Mummy. They watch how Mummy treats Daddy. They notice whether disagreements end with communication or insults, whether mistakes are met with accountability or blame, whether affection is freely given or constantly withheld.

And slowly, what they repeatedly witness becomes their definition of "normal."

This is why choosing a partner solely because of chemistry, beauty, money, status or butterflies can be incredibly shortsighted. Attraction may bring two people together, but character determines much of what happens after the excitement settles.

Before committing to someone, pay attention to how they handle anger. How they treat people who cannot benefit them. Whether they take responsibility when they're wrong. Whether they can delay gratification. Whether they respect boundaries. Whether they are compassionate, disciplined and emotionally stable.

You aren't only choosing someone to share your bed with.

You may be choosing the person whose voice your children will hear every morning, whose behaviour they will imitate, whose values will shape their worldview and whose love, or lack of it, may influence how they understand themselves.

Choose beyond attraction because sometimes the greatest gift you can give your future children is choosing wisely before they ever arrive.

You see so many divorces today, it all began from the foundation. Reflect

[Blessing's Era @BlessingCh73232]

Whenever I go to visit my man and we're heading to the office, there's a neighbour who joins us in the car.

He is a married man with 3 kids.

The first day he joined us, he was sitted in the front seat.

When I got to the car, he immediately came out of the car to go sit at the back seat.

Apparently, he didn't know I was around.

I quickly told him to please, remain that I could sit at the back seat.

He insisted. My man gave me a sign to just allow him since he's insisting.

The whole time, my man stayed calm and was smiling.

The man went to the back seat and dropped off at the junction.

This continued every other day I'm joining him to work.

My man couldn't just be prouder.

One day, my man told me how that he loved my homeliness.

The respect I freely dish out to people just makes him proud.

He keeps dishing my praises. He sometimes, intentionally not say anything. But, I know he is blessing God eveyday for finding a sweet Genz babe like me.

Your man owns a car, the front seat is for you. But, it will be wise to give respect to an elder (could be his dad, mum, neighbour etc)..

That way, you're giving your man his due respect and he would adore you for life.

No be everything dem suppose teach you for school.

Ire o!

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Dear newly or young married men,

Your kitchen and pot of food belongs to you and your wife alone.

No one from your family or hers has the right to go into her kitchen to either cook or dish food by themselves unless your wife permits them to.

If you do not allow your wife to create that boundary in her matrimonial home, you'd be causing alot of issues.

And your siblings would not give her the respect that she deserves.

Once you marry a wife, the relationship that you ang your siblings have and how you were sharing things should reduce in your matrimonial home.

Your matrimonial home is not your father's house.

End.

[Engrace Tenny✂️🪡🧵 @TeniolaTomilola]

@haryorbami_ @jon_d_doe You can DM now

[Engrace Tenny✂️🪡🧵 @TeniolaTomilola]

@Nomardicspring9 @jon_d_doe Hi

[OLÓRÍ-ẸBÍ @OloriEbiCoach]

@jon_d_doe Real value isn't just a bank statement; it’s a man's character, presence, and emotional maturity.

When a man respects himself and has a clear vision, it commands genuine respect naturally.

Relationships stop being transactional when the attraction is real.

[Engrace Tenny✂️🪡🧵 @TeniolaTomilola]

@Neyoopt @jon_d_doe Happy wedding anniversary. Fresh wine in your home

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

I have said this multiple times. From the day I joined X, I have always been clear about my status.

Especially married women.

I no know wetin dem dey hide am for.

Is it until men come into their DMs to either flirt or make sexual innuendos that they will now open up?

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Even if your father is a bad husband, he'd still love you.

Even if your mother is a bad wife, she'd still love you.

Your parents existed before you.

How they treat each other will not affect the love they have for you.

But it would affect the way you treat your spouse.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

The time when our mothers got married before 25 is not the same as the time we are in now.

Younger women of these days are more exposed but not necessarily wiser.

Even though they may be more educated.

And that lack of wisdom makes them unfit for marriage.

If you decide to marry them, please know that you're not marrying your mother.

End.

[Big Ice @dmGambo]

A woman who hasn’t lived, explored, and gotten certain experiences out of her system before marriage is a liability in that marriage. Not because she’s a bad person, but because she’s an incomplete one. And an incomplete person makes an unstable partner.

The reality is that most women below 25 today are still in the process of becoming. Their identity is still fluid, their standards are shaped more by social media and peer influence than by self-knowledge, and their capacity for the kind of settled commitment marriage requires hasn’t fully developed. You don’t marry a work in progress and expect a finished product.

What makes a woman genuinely ready for marriage isn’t age alone, it’s what that age represents. It represents a woman who has tested herself, made mistakes, faced consequences, and arrived at a point where she’s choosing commitment rather than defaulting into it because it seemed like the next step. That choice is more durable. That foundation holds under pressure.

A man who marries a woman below 25 thinking he’s getting a loyal, settled companion is often actually getting a woman who will finish her growing up inside his marriage, and that growth may take her in directions that have nothing to do with him.

A woman who comes to you having already chosen herself is far more likely to choose you genuinely.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

If you have a male friend that has refused to reduce the rate at which he visits you after you marry your wife, to the extent that he doesn't mind passing the night.

He's most likely coming to visit your wife.

Not you.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

And let me say this to young single ladies in relationship.

If you go to cohabit with your boyfriends or you go to spend the weekend at his place.

Please make sure that you return his change whenever he asks you to go buy anything.

Do not say "it's small, be doesn't need it".

Give account of every penny you spent from the money he gave you.

Even if he is forming not interested in knowing, do it.

If you see money in a random place, don't just take it.

Tell him that you saw money somewhere, and that you used it for this or that.

Or you ask him why he kept money so carelessly.

If you tell him that you need 500k to change your phone, and he's "stupid" enough to give it to you, do not spend the entire 500k on a phone.

Spend 250k and show him what you plan to use 250k for.

Do not go to your boyfriend's house and start forming over-familiarity with his neighbors.

Or going to beg his neighbors for salt, maggi, pepper or even water.

If he doesn't have those things in his house at the moment, use your money to buy them.

And tell him about it later.

There are many ways that you as a lady can show that you're not a liability or a leech.

But your ojúk��kòrò will not let you be great.

To you, your toto water is all that matters.

I pity you.

End.

[Engrace Tenny✂️🪡🧵 @TeniolaTomilola]

@whiteman9xx @jon_d_doe Some of my gender with some kind of stupid acts, can she do the same with her father's money, something your parent can't do for you at home, be forming richman daughter with another person money. And I am sure she's the type that can't joke with her money o

[Alpha Esq @alpha_the_dev]

My brother, this thing you posted hits deep. A man marries a woman, she keeps the home, raises the children, stays faithful, yet in the bedroom everything becomes mechanical like factory work. Only when another child is needed does the frequency go up. What kind of arrangement is that?

Many will quickly blame the wife — say she let herself go or the marriage has grown cold. But the real question is on the man. If the pleasure is there and the woman is willing, why turn it into a duty roster tied only to childbirth? Some hide behind work stress or tiredness from providing, yet they find energy for other things outside. Others entered the marriage with one clear target in mind: children to carry the family name. Once that box is ticked, the fire dies down.

Here is what many refuse to face squarely: a man who treats his wife’s body like a tool for reproduction only is either fighting something inside himself or never saw her as a full partner from the beginning. In our culture we praise the provider, the father who builds a big house and sends children to good schools. But we stay quiet when the same man leaves his wife starving for basic affection and touch year after year.

Tell me this — if your own daughter grows up and marries a man who touches her only when he wants another grandchild, how would you advise her?

The unexpected truth is this: plenty of these marriages survive on the surface because the woman has learned to endure in silence, just as her mother did before her. Society rewards that endurance and calls it virtue. But endurance is not the same as fulfillment. A home where husband and wife no longer share real intimacy is already halfway to becoming two separate people living under one roof.

Think about it quietly tonight. What exactly are we building when we reduce marriage to children and provision alone, while the one thing that should bind two adults together gets locked away like a secret?

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

If you know that you've not done anything fundamentally wrong to your husband, and he mostly sleeps with you for procreation.

It's either he's gay, or he married you just for you to have kids for him.

Toto is too sweet.

So I don't understand.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Can a man find his wife sexually unattractive and still love her?

My answer is No.

A man does not even need to love his wife, for him to be sleeping with her.

In marriage, sex is a duty.

And not necessarily an obligation.

It's a duty because it's affiliated with roles, positions, and moral and ethical standards that marriage is expected to uphold.

It's not necessarily an obligation, because it may be seen as being legally forced to indulge in it to avoid some form of punishment.

Meaning, it may not be a consensual act.

Love is ephemeral in marriage.
It may be there, or it may not be there.

But the couple must be intentionally committed to each other.

"I married this woman, I don't have to love her, but I owe her a duty of care, protection, provision and sex"

That's why you're her husband.

If you deny your wife of sex, what you're doing in essence is dereliction of duty. You're willfully being negligent of her emotional or sexual needs.

Can you as a married man, stay for one or two months without sex?

Especially when you're not even far away from your wife?

Where are you getting sex from if you've not been sleeping with your wife for months?

Now flip it.

Can a married woman stay without sex for months?

Especially when she's not far away from her husband?

Where is her husband expecting her to get sex from?

You cannot tell me that blood is not flowing in her veins, or that she is no longer attractive to you as her husband.

If you don't see her sexually attractive to you anymore, it's because you're not taking good care of her.

You cannot use the excuse of her breasts getting sagged or her stomach not being flat anymore to deny her of sex.

Those are the "scars" of motherhood, which you put on her. You must embrace those scars and appreciate her body the way it is.

As long as your wife is not recalcitrant, or that you have caught her cheating, or that she is not dirty, you should not deny her of sex.

And if you're a kind provider, you'd further keep her in the mood and constantly or ever ready to accept you into her bosom & "Jerusalem".

Being a pastor or Imam should not be used as an excuse either.

You cannot be denying your wife of sex in the name of "I am praying to God to grant me my wish, so I have to abstain from sex".

God himself ordained marriage.

And he blessed your vows and covenant.

So stop using religion as an escape route.

Go and fuck your wife.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

If you're no longer sexually attracted or compatible with your wife, give her the permission to have a manfriend who would be fucking her.

A wife needs sex.

A woman needs sex.

You as a man cannot have the "privilege" of cheating, & then you deny your wife of her sexual needs.

[Ethan's Mum @Mide_AyaOba]

Just as Agba said, If you go into marriage with the mindset that your wife would love you, you're not ready.

Love is an emotion. Emotions are seasonal. What you should be looking for is a woman who respects you, who is loyal to you and who is committed to the vision you're building.

A woman who respects you will stay when the feeling fades. When a woman who is loyal to she will choose you even when better options appear. A woman committed to your vision will sacrifice for something bigger than how she feels today.

The man who marries feelings will always be at the mercy of a woman's emotional weather.
A woman's love is a response, not a promise. Stop chasing the response and become the man who commands it.
Build something worth being loyal to. That attracts a different kind of woman entirely.