Effort banget, karena lo bisa tidur/makan/diem aja di rumah, tapi lo memilih buat jemput gue, for the sake of jemput, gapeduli mau jauh atau dekat.
Semuanya perlu dihargai. 🤗
tbh id feel turned off. jauhi cowok yang bermudah-mudahan kayak gini, they are not even trying. jadi cewek juga jangan denial dan polos-polos amat lah. women around me do judge men who are interested in them based on their account. their following-to-followers ratio, what kind of accounts they follow, whether they follow strangers with sensual content, their interaction patterns with the opposite gender, and what kind of content they are interested in. kalau kayak gini ya based on algorithm, algoritma itu ngikutin kebiasaan usernya, bukan kebetulan ya, makin sering engage, makin banyak muncul. kadang temenku cerita soal pasangannya yang behaviornya kayak gini sambil nangis-nangis, bikin resah dan questioning her self-worth. this kind of pattern doesnt just affect trust, it slowly affects how a woman sees herself. jadi bukan hal kecil atau sekadar “ah cuma fyp lewat doang”. menurut gue ini juga related sama kebiasaan, self control, dan respect ke pasangan. udah micro cheating masuknya lol.
at the end of the day, you cant control the algorithm, but you can control your habits, and habits reflect your values. i dont think men like this are worth destroying your peace over 🤡
i don't know who needs to hear this but in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you’re innocent in the story you created