not a healthy coping trait I know, but every heartache and pain is always “non-monumental” to me because I know the pain of losing a parent at an early age. I use that pain to gauge everything else, sometimes even dismissing somethings cause they feel irrelevant.
Having a man who is dominant but soft when it comes to you is top tier , like he’s masculine but literally worships the ground you walk on , he gets things done without asking, reassures you randomly , clings and obsesses over you , talks to you in a gentle tone and brings out the softest version of you .