healing makes you realize some people don't deserve to be around you, no matter how much you love them. unconditional love doesn't mean unconditional tolerance of abuse, disrespect, or bullshit - it's not unconditional boundaries.
nobody talks about the angry stage of healing. the rage you feel when you realize how much and how long you were taken advantage of. the absolute disgust you feel towards those people that mislead you. it comes in waves. sometimes you'll feel healed and then it suddenly hits you.