First, you hone your listening skills, absorbing yourself in the words and nonverbal cues of others. Second, you dedicate yourself to earning peopleβs respect
Your goal must be not only complete acceptance of your Shadow side but also the desire to integrate it into your present personality. By doing so, you will be a more complete human and will radiate an authenticity that will draw people to you.
This freedom essentially comes from adopting a generous spiritβtoward others and toward ourselves. We can have some distance and stop ourselves from taking everything personally. Mental space is freed up for higher pursuits.
This becomes our self-imposed prison. But this is not how it has to be. We can free ourselves. It comes from a choice, a different way of looking at the world, a change in attitude.
Learn how to occasionally lower your head and appear humble. If dirty work must be done, get others to do it. Your hands are clean. Never overtly play the Machiavellian leaderβthat only works well on television
Projecting sincerity and honesty always plays well. A few public confessions of your weaknesses and vulnerabilities will do the trick. For some reason people see signs of humility as authentic, even though people might very well be simulating them
When working alongside fools, do not fight them. Instead think of them the way you think of children, or pets, not important enough to affect your mental balance