Womanly love is a little obsessive. If she’s not a little obsessed with you, she doesn’t really want you. She just has you around.
Real love from a woman isn’t soft and quiet. It’s charged. It’s possessive. It’s obvious. If you have to guess, you already know the answer.
We thought it was Sickle Cell Anaemia presenting with dactylitis. But this case came with a plot twist.
The Prof said, “Repeat after me: Whenever I see dactylitis, I won’t rush to conclude it’s sickle cell disease.”
This case will humble you. 👇🏽
This might be an unpopular opinion, but I think the phrase “a mother’s love is unconditional” is one of those statements we repeat so often that we rarely stop to examine whether it’s actually true.
And sometimes it’s the reason for an accidental oppression towards daughters-in-law in our communities.
Before anyone sharpens their pitchforks, hear me out.👀👀
Social media has made men and women to be too accessible to each other.
And with that abundance of availability, comes the sad dilution of love and yearning.
The idea of men and women readily available and easily seen gives us the illusion that selection is easy because the sample size is large.
And in the process of selecting, many of us end up over testing. And before you know it, you might become so accustomed to the adrenaline of new trials that it becomes hard to sustain relationships.
Compare us with those who wrote letters to their lovers every fortnight and wait anotjer fortnight for a reply.
The thoughtfulness and genuiness that goes into that one page may be heavier in scale than the messages and snaps we send to each other.
Or even recently, how many people spend the day planning and arranging what they will tell their lovers at midnight, when free calls are on, because they could not afford to recharge their phones during the day and talk at will.
Are those lovely moments not better than the fleeting hours lovers now spend on WhatsApp and FaceTime calls?
How can one revive the spirit of intense loving and yearning in the midst of all this abundance?
your wife is feeding you well or that you are now rich. It's completely false.
It happens to women too but usually they blame child birth which is not completely true.
Without childbirth, many still add weight and fat.
The main culprit is heavy carb diet and lack of exercise.
Our diet in Nigeria will naturally make many people have pot belly and eventually be pre diabetic or diabetic by the time they approach 40. It may not show in your 20s well but the moment you are 30, it will show well and many people will say it's because you have got married and
Here’s an observation I made as a parent, and this is a heartfelt message to other parents: please, limit your children’s screen time.
For the past two to three years, I struggled deeply with my son’s attention span. Every single teacher, both his Islamic teachers and his school teachers, said the same thing:
“Your son is incredibly smart. One of the smartest children in class. But he has serious attention issues.”
And they were right.
I tried everything. I even created a full homeschooling routine at some point. I bought educational materials, structured activities, learning aids, I genuinely went the extra mile because I knew my son was intelligent. But the mistake I kept making was that once we were done learning, he went straight back to screens.
@Abdulrah_maan On my wedding I asked her to admonish me. She said ‘a good husband is like a host that is allergic to cigarettes but whose visitor is addicted, yet he reserves a pack for her. A good wife is like an addicted visitor who knows her host is allergic, so she decides not to smoke’
This is exactly why Islam warns us about careless, inflammatory speech.
Not everything needs to be said. And definitely not everything needs to be said publicly.
What we’re seeing right now is the outcome of careless speech. It is now bigger than “just a conversation.”
Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith.
First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul.
If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her.
Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them.
A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward.
He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now.
Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar.
Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity.
Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do.
Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight.
Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break.
Allah knows best.
Resident doctors are set to begin a nationwide indefinite strike from midnight
You’d think the Minister of Health would be engaging them in serious dialogue to resolve the issues, right?
Wrong.
Instead, he is currently in France, inspecting and negotiating to buy emergency medical helicopters from Airbus.
Yes, air ambulances. While the doctors who actually run our hospitals are complaining about unpaid promotion arrears, scrapped allowances, and broken agreements.
This is the same country where basic healthcare is struggling, yet the priority right now is shopping for helicopters abroad.
If they explain Nigeria to you and you understand it, then they didn’t explain it well.
"You'll grow out of love."
I don't know your circumstances, I certainly dont know your examples, but I've seen elderly couples who didn't fall out of love and I choose to remain hopeful and prayerful.
After food, shelter and clothing, I'll add love.
Last month alone, more women have died during childbirth in Nigeria, than the entire ppl that died due to Covid-19 in the country.
Remember, we shut down our airports and unleashed state police to enforce lockdowns because to covid.
But somehow this maternal death is fine.