i don't know who needs to hear this but in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you’re innocent in the story you created
normalize giving up on people. no more seeing the best in them, no more excusing their behavior. accept them as they are and reject them. If they wanted to appreciate you, they would’ve already.