Alexander

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[Alexander @theapexoperator]

More likely to be the case the better-looking he is.

Because his looks compensates for lack of understanding or social skills.

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

90% of men are actually totally autistic in dating.

More often than not, it's usually the ones who think they're all fine.

If you're reading that and thinking
"nah, that's not me" - even more likely that you are.
You Dunning-Kruger’ed MF.

It's like how every guy thinks they know how fight lol

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

They managed to get pierogi into space before getting illegal immigrants into Poland

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

If something can fluctuate so easily from outside conditions...

If you lose your softness, patience and grace when stress arises...

And if you only feel feminine when you're around a masculine man... because your femininity is being externally reinforced...

How connected are you really with it?

What they're calling
"feminine energy" on IG & TikTok is the equivalent of a man only feeling masculine when he's making a lot of money.

It's absolutely wild how bad all the info out there is. Mind blown.

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

Everyone has heard about
"Fragile Masculinity" at this point...

Have you ever heard about
"Fragile Femininity"?

It's when women "feel less feminine" when there's external stress.

If masculine & feminine are opposites...

That's the equivalent to me saying:

"I feel less masculine if everything is too calm."

Don't know about you, but l'd feel absolutely ridiculous saying that.

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

Every time you avoid discomfort, you lose.

Discomfort isn't just part of the process.

It is the process towards self-mastery.

Women who do this will scare away weak men, and attract stronger men.

Men who do this will
attract higher-quality women, and gain more respect from other men.

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

What if your biggest weakness is something you don't even know that you're doing?

You think it's your words.

It's not.

It's the WAY you deliver them that's killing your success...

Every time you:

- Fidget
- Avoid eye contact
- Touch your face or neck
- Look down after speaking
- Raise your tone in statements

... silently SCREAM hesitation & insecurity.

These are called "self-soothing behaviours."

You do them unconsciously to relieve social pressure, anxiety or stress.

(If you don't think you're doing them, it's even more likely that you are...)

But they're not helping you.

They're exposing your insecurity.

The solution isn't to fake confident body language.

Fixing body language alone is like patching a sinking ship.

Because the moment you adjust one habit, your mind will
find another way to self-soothe.

It all ties back to your mindsets & beliefs.

You do this because deep down, you unconsciously believe...

1. Silence means they're judging you, so you fill it with words.

2. Keeping the peace is safer than standing your ground.

3. Admitting you're wrong will make you look weak.
4. Being liked is more important than being respected.

Here's how to eliminate this BS from your mind, starting today...

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

Seek discomfort.

Your mind needs hard proof.,

Not empty promises.

Speak slower and let the silence stretch.

Before: You rush to fill the gap.
After: They lean in, desperate to hear your next word.

Maintain eye contact, no matter how uncomfortable YOU feel.

Before: You break first, signalling weakness.
After: They look away, feeling the pressure instead.

Say what you actually think.
Remove ALL filters.

Before: You walk on eggshells to stay "liked"
After: They respect you, even if they don't agree.

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

There aren't any inherently good or bad thoughts.

No good or bad emotions.

In reality, they can only be neutral -
"The photo without the Instagram filter"

It just SEEMS like they are good or bad, because your ego will label them as such.

"Does this reinforce my desired self-image or identity?" - label as "good".

And vice versa.

This is why understanding the mechanisms of the ego is crucial for persuasion/ influence.

The way you frame things will determine whether the other person will perceive it as positive or negative.

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

Have you ever tried to identify the source from where your thoughts arise?

In which direction does your stream of consciousness flow?

From where does your emotions arise?

Do they all actually appear in exactly the same place?

And is the location of them and separation between them completely imaginary?

If they were separated, you'd be able to experience them each in isolation.

But you can't. You can only experience the totality of them.

If the words "thought", "emotion" didn't exist in the English language, wouldn't you just see them all as the same thing?

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

Online dating is so fucking easy.

It’s an absolute joke when you understand the psychology.

After having slept with over 1000+ women (between cold approach & apps) over the past 7~ years, the patterns are so incredibly predictable, clear and obvious.

I have to send ridiculous shit like in this screenshot to keep things at least a little bit fun for myself.

The most clear pattern so far:

You can never blindly believe what they put in their profiles.

Especially when they say they’re “strictly looking for long-term relationships”.

Nah, they’re not. They’re saying that to screen out dishonest, weak low-T men who will adjust their preferences & approach to please the girl. “Tell her what she wants to hear”.

Or to protect their public perception.

This becomes more true for how attractive she is, and how much social status she stands to lose.

Just like the girl here… “Looking for long-term relationship”.

Do I blame women for doing this?

Absolutely fucking not. It’s very smart, and exactly what they should do.

I fully support women having Dual Mating Strategies.

Too many men slut-shame women. That all stems from massive insecurity.

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

4. Brotherhoodmaxxing

Stop giving undeserved attention & validation to random women.

Redirect ALL of it to your male friends instead.

80/20 Highest ROl Actions:

Strong Male Circle: Surround yourself with men who push you to improve and keep you accountable.

Iron sharpens iron.

Discard everyone who tries to pull you away from self-improvement.

Elevate Each Other:
Celebrate growth.

Give advice and perspective.

Keep each other's ego's in check:

Don't let your friends rationalise their failures or externalise blame on women, society...

Always give them the cold, hard truth. They deserve that honesty.

Don't ever let them indulge in victimhood.

It's the greatest favour you can ever do them.

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

Say NO to Brainrot Culture.

The system has made you feel weak, irrelevant, and defeated.

Let me show you how to fight back.

[Alexander @theapexoperator]

3. Psychologymaxxing

High Attraction without leveraging psychology?

WASTED EFFORT.

80/20 Highest ROl Actions:

Learn Frame Control: Use deliberate language patterns to create subconscious narratives.

Leverage Cognitive Biases to create even more attraction (social proof, scarcity, preselection...)

Master Female Psychology: Through empathy, understand her frustrations and pain points in dating so deeply that you can describe it better than she ever could.

Address what she feels, but doesn't say out loud.

This bridges the gap between your hard work & attracting women who are light-years ahead of those average, brain-rotted OF girls...