As a child I questioned everything that didn't make sense to me. That's why patriarchy and religion just never had a strong hold. You're supposed to be the one cooking, why. You will get sent to hell, why. In your husband's house, why.
Do not talk about discernment if you cannot recognise when someone needs compassion more than criticism and correction. There is a time to guide and a time to simply hold space for a person who is hurting. Wisdom knows the difference. And kindness knows it even faster.