Let break down this ânot all menâ stuff for you people
Out of 10 men in a room, one cracks a sexual joke.
Two of them actually find it funny.
Three of them donât find it funny but chuckle just to fit in.
Four of them donât find it funny but donât say anything.
None of them says, âstop, thatâs actually disturbingâ.
Later, 9 men go back home believing theyâre part of the good majority, unlike the man who cracked the sexual joke. But from a womanâs perspective, there isnât much difference between the people who laughed, the people who laughed just to fit in and the people who said nothing.
All three do the same thing. They keep the room safe for the men who cross the line. And thatâs the part ânot all menâ doesnât address.
Women arenât always saying that all men harass, but what we are saying is that a lot of good, polite men end up protecting the system where harassment feels low risk.
I understand why men resist this framing, but doing nothing is not the same as doing no harm, when the environment itself is what enables thr harm. The least you guys can do for women is to SPEAK UP.
Itâs the same thing going on with this raping festival, some men wouldnât participate but they wouldnât stop the men that are participating.
But since theyâre not part of the majority, they think theyâre the âgoodâ ones, when all theyâre doing is protecting the system that keeps failing women.
Before you hand over any piece of work, ask yourself one question: If this stopped on my desk and nobody else reviewed it, am I comfortable with the quality?
Because that is exactly how you should be working.
Think like the most senior person on your team. Think like the work ends with you. No one else is going to catch your mistakes. No one else is going to clean it up.
When you start working like that, you stop letting things slide. You stop submitting things you are not proud of. You start caring about the details from the beginning; not after someone points them out.
That is how you get fewer review notes. That is how people start trusting your work.
This week, produce the work that the most senior person on your team would produce.
You promoted your best salesperson to sales manager.
Six months later, they're struggling, and you're wondering what went wrong.
This happens everywhere. We promote our best doers into management, then wonder why they can't lead.
Here's why:
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REASONS GOOD EMPLOYEES LEAVE
Itâs not a lack of talent â itâs a lack of leadership.
This is the quiet truth behind so many resignations.
Itâs not âpoor fit.â
Itâs not âlow engagement.â
Itâs not âchanging priorities.â
Itâs a workplace culture that refuses to hold managers accountable â even when the damage is obvious.
In toxic environments, something predictable happens:
⢠High performers stop believing change is possible
⢠Not because theyâre negative
⢠Not because theyâre difficult
But because every signal tells them the same thing:
âLeadership wonât address the real problem.â
- Healthy companies develop leaders
- Toxic companies protect bad ones
- Healthy managers coach and support
- Toxic managers control and blame
- Healthy cultures evolve
- Toxic cultures quietly lose their best people
And while some leaders say they âvalue talent,â their actions tell a different story.
People donât leave jobs.
They donât leave workloads.
They donât leave teams.
They leave environments where the wrong people have power â and nothing ever changes.
If this feels familiar, read this carefully:
⢠Youâre not âtoo sensitiveâ
⢠Youâre not âoverreactingâ
⢠Youâre not the problem
Youâre responding normally to a system thatâs been broken for far too long.
Leaving doesnât make you disloyal.
It means youâre choosing growth over burnout.
- Choose workplaces where leadership takes responsibility
- Choose environments where accountability goes both ways
- Choose teams that value people â not politics
Because you deserve a workplace that helps you grow, not one that drains you.
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@GTBankGhana I have been trying to link my account to my Momo for over a week now. The bank said it will be linked the following day and it hasn't.
My account officer is also not answering my calls.
What is all this stress?
We are the aunties & uncles now.
Be mindful of the comments you make (even as a joke) about the bodies of your nieces & nephews . Weight. Skin color. Teeth. Nose. HAIR. Your words will stick with them.
Just like the words spoken to you stuck & led you to therapy.