📌Just because I did it then, doesn’t mean I condone it now. Just because I once thought it was okay then doesn’t mean I still think it’s okay now. Just because something was once normal to me doesn’t make it normal now. Things change when you mature. Your personality, the way you carry yourself, the way you think and act.
Don’t come throwing my past in my face simply because you haven’t grown.
I had a realization a few years ago that I don't need to figure out why this person is doing a certain behavior I dislike. All that matters is I know I don't like the behavior and I can leave
They shooting the messenger, but she ain’t wrong. Dating and sex were heavily demonized in a lot of our homes. We were told to stay away from boys and focus on school. The problem is that relationships are a skill set too and many Black women were prepared for careers but left to figure out dating, boundaries, and healthy partnership on our own.
Just detach. Let it end. Accept whatever life brings your way. Not everything is meant to last, and not every story gets a happy ending. Loosen your grip. Stop forcing what no longer fits. Make peace with what’s over and allow yourself to breathe again.
And let me just say this… ladies when you’re educated, pretty, got motion AND no kids. You do NOT have to settle for struggling with someone. You have every right to be selective.