YOU ARE NOT A BACKUP PLAN.
You feel it in the way they only text when it’s convenient for them, when others aren’t around, when they need attention or validation. Yet you stay, hoping that eventually you’ll become their first choice.
You make excuses. You lower your standards. You accept the crumbs and try to convince yourself they’re enough.
Anxious attachment makes you settle for being someone’s maybe while you treat them like a priority.
I spent too long being someone’s maybe. I dimmed my needs, ignored the disrespect, convinced myself “at least they come back.” It left me empty every single time.