and expectations shape every interaction.
No two people see the world in exactly the same way; the same person can be a source of joy to one and misunderstanding to another, not because they change, but because our perspective does.
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“Life is all about perspective” reminds us that reality isn’t fixed, it shifts depending on how we choose to see it.
The lens through which we interpret everything around us is different for each of us.
Hence, we experience people differently because our backgrounds, emotions,
@AskMichaelTaiwo I lean towards the view that soulmates are romantic myth and not reality.
Relationships are built on shared experiences and effort, not predestined connections.
We should value the dedication and choices we make in our relationships, rather than hope on a destined/perfect match.
I lean towards the view that soulmates are romantic myth and not reality.
Relationships are built on shared experiences and effort, not predestined connections.
We should value the dedication and choices we make in our relationships, rather than hope on a destined/perfect match.
Now you see why EVERYONE’s Mum is the best Mum in the world no matter how terrible she is ?
You see see why majority were cool with beating only their fathers up when both parents misbehave ?
You see why a Lady can be terrible as a Friend, terrible as a co-worker/colleague, terrible as HR, terrible as Boss, terrible as Nurse.. But the moment she gets married, the Husband is the evil one and she’s the victim ?
You see how they say they prefer male friends, male attendants, male bosses, till it’s marriage/relationship then the Males are the demons and the Women are the sweet soul.
You see how when a Man abandons his responsibilities, he’s “dead beat” but when a Woman does same, it’s coz she’s ‘overwhelmed’
You see why “Fathers are always the bad ones” but na Wife and Husband’s Mother dey always get problem regardless.
Trust me I can go on and on citing examples but i’m sure any sane person with a working brain should have gotten the point already.
When a Man is known for moving funny, you’ll see how they start attacking the Women in his life, they start wondering what type of Woman will end up with such Man.
But someone that allegedly collects nudes from Ladies and sell to people, someone that was accused of doing premium jazz and using Women, someone that has her porn clips all over the internet recently got married and it’s motivational quotes all over the TL.
Nobody ‘pitied the type of Man that ended up with her’.. I barely saw narratives on how she’d make a terrible Wife/Mother.
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My societal observation here is that..
When a Man is deemed to have a terrible reputation, not even marriage and/or performing his manly duties as a husband/father can earn him that ‘Good Man’ tag.
But a Woman can have a terrible reputation.. and the moment she gets married, the Mrs tag automatically earns her a ‘GOOD WOMAN’ label.
As I reflect on the journey of my life, I am reminded that the only constant has been the uncertainty that surrounds me. Yet, amidst the chaos and unpredictability, I have found solace in the one choice that life has given me - the choice to hold on to hope. It's a fragile thread
to find joy in the journey.
So, I'll continue to hold on to hope, to cling to it with every fiber of my being. I'll continue to believe that life will get better, that the sun will shine brighter, and that the darkness will slowly recede. And I'll keep sailing through the ups
Correction: This was not a vaccine trial, but a drug (Trovan) trial conducted by Pfizer in 1996 during a meningococcal meningitis epidemic. Four things stood out for me:
1. Pfizer tested their experimental drug without ethical approval.
2. There was no informed consent from trial participants (participants and their families were not told that they were part of a trial). Pfizer argued that it was not required to obtain informed consent for experimental drug trials in Africa.
3. The Pfizer team left Kano after the trial and never returned for follow-up evaluations.
4. Their drug caused deaths and injuries.
This highlights the importance of prioritising medical ethics in Africa. The reality is that this event contributed to the vaccine hesitancy Nigeria experienced when trying to eliminate wild polio. It most likely still contributes to vaccine hesitancy in the country!
The only thing I have to say that I haven't said before is that this all boils down to the same geopolitical issue that is the root cause of Africa's situation - lack of sovereignty. Sovereignty is not when you have your own flag, national anthem, nominal borders and paraphernalia of state. Sovereignty is when you can back up those symbols with the ability to control your own public policy, security, food, medicine, energy, natural resource extraction and industrial activity.
When you supposedly have your own flag, anthem and government institutions, but there are American or British soldiers stationed permanently on your territory; the US embassy selects your president; American and European corporations control your natural resource extraction and manufacturing processes; your food supply is dependent on cheap US imports and American GMO seeds that you have to buy every year since they cannot be replanted; your medicines and vaccines are supplied by USAID and Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation; American NGOs have legal immunity in your country which makes them literally above the law; IMF and World Bank staff in Washington DC have more control over your country's budget, finances, and fiscal planning that your government; and you lack any capacity to roll back or scrutinise any of this obvious interference, that means only one thing - you are NOT sovereign.
Africans need to fight a psychological war with the idea that white people somehow *ought* to be involved in the internal affairs of African countries. There is no reason why the vaccines you adminster to your kids in Lagos, Arusha and Libreville must be made by Pfizer and supplied to your country by an NGO run by an American billionaire. India is also a developing country, but every vaccine administered to an Indian child is made in India by Indian companies under the regulation and supervision of the Indian government. India insisted on its sovereignty, and the sky did not fall down.
There is no reason why you should have European and North American soldiers and military bases on your soil. None whatsoever. Even assuming they have only benevolent intentions which they don't, there is no "security" they are supposedly capable of bestowing upon your country that it cannot generate by itself. Why doesn't France have Cameroonian and Ivorian military bases with armed black African soldiers walking around in Marseille and Avignon? Why must these things only be present in your country and not in theirs?
There is no reason why you should not grow your own food. Of course there is nothing wrong with importing food and global trade can be a good thing, but why must a foreign entity *enforce* food dependency on you? Why should a banker in DC get to control how much land and resources your government can commit to growing food versus growing export crops for dollar incomes that will be used to pay loans? Why should the banker's good friend, the American tech billionaire who is now apparently the world's most powerful celebrity scientist have more power than your government in deciding what type of seeds you can grow on your own land?
If one of your primary economic activities involves extracting your god-given resources from the ground, there is no reason why a European or North American corporation must be in charge of the extraction. The ability to extract gold, oil, diamonds, cobalt, lithium, copper, tin or anything else from the ground is not genetically embedded in white people - there is no reason why local people and businesses must not be the primary economic beneficiary of the natural resources that are present in their own country.
Why should the American tech billionaire-turned-global-knower-of-everything give $1 million to an NGO in Nairobi to campaign for Africa to not use its cheap energy reserves and thus remain poor and unindustrialised? Why should Bill Gates get to determine whether your unborn children will live and die poor or not? Who the fuck is he to decide that? How much more blatant must the ongoing colonisation of your personal and economic space get before you see it as an existential problem? Probably when Bill Gates starts cloning himself, and his NGOs start producing research papers advising your governemnt to import the clones to fuck your wife and propagate his DNA because his superior billionaire cum is better for the planet than your own?
Without an unapologetic push for sovereignty like we are witnessing with the AES countries, rubbish like what happened in the quoted tweet will never stop happening in Africa. The reason Pfizer or any other American big pharma corporation sees Africans as lab rats to be experimented on illegally without their knowledge or consent is that there are no guardrails stopping them, and no consequences afterward - try taking your black African self to Minnesota and carrying out an illegal drug trial there that ends up killing 11 white American kids with names like Molly and Brett, and just watch what will happen to you.
When I keep going on and on about sovereignty, it's precisely because of situations like these. And you can be sure that for every one case like this that came to public knowledge, there are 14 or 15 that we never even got to hear about. Sovereignty in Africa is not just political rhetoric.
It's literal life and death.
Nobody:
Me to the Bikeman: thank you
Me to the Uber driver: thank you
Me to my parents or siblings after doing something for me : thank you
Me to the Barman: thank you
Me to the trader: thank you.
Me to the artisan: thank you.
I’ll always say thank you.
Nobody:
Me to the Bikeman: thank you
Me to the Uber driver: thank you
Me to my parents or siblings after doing something for me : thank you
Me to the Barman: thank you
Me to the trader: thank you.
Me to the artisan: thank you.
I’ll always say thank you.
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