food and drinks consumed in a movie theater doesn’t really go into your body. it goes into your movie theater body which is separate & holy and harm-proof
As excited as I am for Apocalypse Fest, I’m disappointed about Dark Divine on the lineup. A band who created an unsafe space for queer people and women on their crew and mistreats their collaborators should not be sharing the stage with MIW, who present themselves as allies (1/3)
Last year I toured with a band named Dark Divine. After much consideration I want to speak up about my experience.
While on tour I was subjected to consistent verbal abuse and harassment from our FOH crew member, who drunkenly berated me every single day. It began significantly impacting my mental health and ability to do my job. Despite multiple attempts making them aware and the situation escalating to the point that I felt physically unsafe — the response from the band was dismissive and not handled with proper emphasis. Instead of support, I faced a lot of blame for my reactivity to how I was treated and gaslit by being told I was too emotional. I was made out to be the unreasonable one when I vocalized what was going on. I was picked apart and made to feel it was my fault for not enduring this abusive behavior and making it easier on everyone. I was also asked to be quiet and not publicly speak about this by mgmt before I decided to leave tour early. I stayed silent for almost a year out of concern for my career, but I have had my name defamed behind my back and false rumors spread about what actually happened, as have others.
I've recently been made aware that my experience isn't unique, and I am not the only crew member to deal with this level of unprofessionalism & abuse from them; some worse. I will not be sharing the other peoples' stories as that is their decision to come forward if they feel comfortable in doing so.
I am not sharing this in attempt to cancel them, nor do I care who believes me. I have more than enough support behind me and have moved on. I just want to put emphasis on awareness and any women / LGBTQ+ people considering working with this band to just be mindful of their behavior. I am really tired of the lack of accountability & I do not want anyone else to be subjected to hostile work environments that we have - and if this helps at least one person that's all that matters.