"If they wanted to, they would" isn't true. How people treat you is based on their ability to deal with conflict, their own triggers, and their deeply engrained attachment style.
Red meat is not bad for you.
Raw milk is not bad for you.
Sunlight is not bad for you.
Eggs are not bad for you.
Butter is not bad for you.
Salt is not bad for you.
Fruit is not bad for you.