Chaos is part of reality, accepting it is part of becoming strong. Letting go of the obsession to control everything with discipline can free you from rigidity, which might otherwise break you. A tree under strong winds can be uprooted, but bamboo, being flexible, endures!
I heard today "you'll only understand the power of one day, when you''re threat with never having another one." I think this is why memento mori is so important.