Peter Pan

Father. Husband. Reader. Listener. Tea drinker. Amateur psychologist. Adoptee. Conflict-Avoider. Dreamer. Wanderer. Worrier. Addict. Self-saboteur. Truth-seeker

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

“The word loss was inadequate. Loss just meant a lack, meant something was missing, but it did not encompass the totality of this severance, this terrifying un-anchoring from all that he’d ever known”. @kuangrf, Babel, pg 15

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

So, can people please continue to stop donating sperm? Thanks https://t.co/ehzTYCJ6nX

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

“A government-run donor conception database is set to be established in Queensland after a parliamentary inquiry found people's knowledge of where they came from outweighed protecting the privacy of sperm or egg donors.”

https://t.co/PyVP8TeV7R

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

I had mail for signature collection at post office. I was so nervous in hopeful anticipation that it was registered mail from bio family wanting contact. With shaky hands I signed for the letter. Turns out it was my child’s passport. Hope is a dangerous drug.

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

It aggrieves me when sharing my story that I will be asked how old I was when I was adopted - as though whether it is 3 weeks, 3 months or 3 years somehow minimises the trauma of separating from your mother. #adoption

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

I was a closed adoption, so my bio parents were never spoken of. But if they were I’d have wanted them to have been imagined as heroes not homeless. I’d always dreamed that I’d come from greatness and it gave me hope.

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

@KevinLHazlett What does it do for your daughters identity that you shame her mother as alcoholic & homeless? Let her be proud of her mum. Give her hope that there is greatness inside of her beyond just the love you give. Let her be proud of where she came from, not just where she is going. :)

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

@KevinLHazlett What does it do for your daughters identity that you shame her mother as alcoholic & homeless? Let her be proud of her mum. Give her hope that there is greatness inside of her beyond just the love you give. Let her be proud of where she came from, not just where she is going. :)

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

Listened today as my wife observed of the US #RoeVsWade decision: ‘we need to make adoption more accessible’. Adoption solves 1 problem by creating 100 more. I can only see how this decision badly impacts mothers - particularly those who are already marginalised. Lord, have mercy

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

Sometimes I wonder if biological fathers who abandoned pregnant girlfriends feel any sense of lifelong shame. Does it not offend the inherent masculine need to protect and provide? Or is it like forgetting to return a library book -a small misdemeanour that you eventually forget?

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

Powerful episode. Worth watching.

[Insight on SBS @insightSBS]

#InsightSBS is on now!
For adoptees and people who are donor conceived, meeting your biological family can be one of the biggest moments in your life. But these reunions can be challenging. We hear from people who met family later in life.
Watch it here: https://t.co/LqUy0Ekwn1

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

That feeling when you reach out to a bio family member hoping with all your heart that they will reply (after years of stonewalling you) but you know with your heard you’re alone and they won’t respond. It’s an indulgent hope mixed with fear, anticipation and sadness. #adoption

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

I started at a new gym and after 2 weeks one of the trainers resigned & separately 1 of my gym buddies is changing gyms. All day I felt sick and as though I’d done something wrong. Ive been grieving them. I’ve known both of these people for only 2 weeks. #adoption

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

How come any other event in the western world is published with both a start & end time, but #church only ever has a start time? Why dont churches advertise an end time to the service so we can all plan our lives and weekends without the possibility of an indulgently long sermon?

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

@karigislason Just read this and thoroughly enjoyed. Beautifully written. Thank you for sharing your gift.

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

Roy was an #adoptee. I always loved that we had that in common. As a young fella growing up it meant a lot to see a sport superstar who was an adoptee. I never knew him. But he will be missed. I hope his birth family get to grieve his death too. Rip. #AndrewSymonds

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

#mothersday here in Australia today. My birth mother remains out of touch (her choice) but also unacknowledged by those I love. What a difference it would make if people acknowledged the loss of our parents. Today is a hard day, and the sun will rise tomorrow.

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

Have a large work conference and one of the things is we have to share a baby photo/childhood photo and we need to talk to what it means to us and about that time in our lives. Anyone been in this Uber awkward situation? Do I talk adoption or just gloss over and keep it simple?

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

Whenever I have a missed call I allow myself to feel a fleeting sense of hope that it might be my b/parents calling me. Ofcourse it never is. Im trying to free myself of this expectation, but I can live a lifetime in those brief moments of uncertainty when an unknown number calls

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

I sometimes indulge in a daydream where my reunion was successful. I would drop by their house on weekends. Maybe stay the night in their spare bedroom they have made up for me after eating a big dinner together. It’s a beautiful daydream that could have been. It will always hurt

[Peter Pan @thelostboy_____]

If we’re going to keep going down this pathway, a register is essential. But why is the proposal for people to only have access until they reach 18? And how do we guarantee donor kids are informed they are donor kids and not lied to? Is it on their birth certificate? #ABCNews

[ABC News @abcnews]

Queensland to investigate setting up sperm, egg and embryo donor register https://t.co/jk7pnLC3Td