The key to living a comfortable life is confrontation and chaos actually. You have to say no. You have to tell people to fuck off. You have to be mean in necessary situations. A life of peace isn't built off of being a yes man and taking a passive approach to everything
Having parents who didnโt prepare you for literally anything in life, judging you for being โbehindโ as an adult is definitely a canon event for a lot of neurodivergent people.