TheMaven

Love everyone. But above all, Love yourself

[Okong' Okuna @XivTroy]

I think silence is the highest form of intimacy. Perhaps, the truest marker of compatibility among lovers. While attraction seeks frenzy, forever is a question of stillness: Can we sit still together? Can you be bored with me? How badly do you need to distract yourself from you?

[Osaretin Victor Asemota @asemota]

I have friends who are older and very fit because of their lifestyle. They don't drink or smoke and exercise daily. They also have the most unfit kids who don't follow their example. This has always worried me as I am raising young children. I have also seen families with hard-working and wealthy parents who raise the laziest and most entitled children.

We always want our children to do better than us, but when and where does this go wrong for most people? I think it comes from the time and attention we personally give our kids and the lapses we allow.

My wife and I are early risers. I have a particular sleep problem I am still trying to solve, but my kids can sleep all day on vacation if you let them. A friend with an older son who had just graduated and was back home, jobless, used to tell me how alarmed he was that the son would go out all night, come back early in the morning, and sleep all day.

I told him then that if he didn't force him to change that habit, he would remain jobless and stay with his parents longer. They eventually forced him to change, and he moved out. He has a job now and struggles a lot. His parents are concerned that he isn't thriving. He is now almost 30, and I think about this all the time. At 25, I was a beast and had started many businesses.

While we want our kids and young adults to experience life on their own terms in a world vastly different from the one we grew up in, we can't help but notice that others whose children were more disciplined are thriving better. One indicator I have seen that correlates with success in younger people is fitness.

A friend’s son started going to the gym regularly, and he even inspired his cousins to do so. I checked on LinkedIn recently, and he is doing exceptionally well as a lawyer and investment banker without any family connections or assistance. His younger cousins, who are looking up to him, are following in his footsteps. I decided to get my kids to spend more time with him.

The role models our children need may be closer to their age than ours. It is why we need to amplify the lifestyles of young, disciplined, and successful people more. Not every person will make it through creative pursuits. I stress this to my kids all the time. There are billions of YouTube channels, but there is only one MrBeast or IShowSpeed.

Social media is highlighting more unrealistic role models than the most useful ones. My daughter is likely one of the most intelligent young children that I know, but because she doesn't want to be seen as a nerd, she is adapting to popular culture to blend in, in a way that scares me. This sometimes affects the way she learns. While I don't want to restrict her now from experiencing the world, I have realized that she needs different role models.

My son’s role models are nerds, and he nerds out in ways that surprise me and it is also worrying. We can be watching a movie, and he goes online to research it and summarise the plot so he can leave to code. He is not experiencing life enough outside the internet.

They will either eventually be ok in a world very different from ours or struggle in a world that becomes worse than ours, without the skills to build personal resilience and strong social skills.

I recently had a personal experience that made me realize I was fortunate to have left home early and to have different role models from my parents. Having a broken home led to different outcomes for my siblings and me, but the fact that I had strong personalities like my mother’s uncle and the uncles I grew up around helped me learn a lot more about life and priorities.

The world is a very complex place, and life is not a bed of roses. While we want the best outcomes for our kids, we have to finally admit that they will learn far more from others than they will ever learn from us. The best thing we can do for them is expose them to the right kind of people early enough, then hope and pray that we didn't misread those people.

[-valar morghulis- @eldivine]

Let me say this to us again, because I just saw a comment about class, once again from Nigerians who seem obsessed with it.

The "rules" of polite society are not (necessarily) an attempt to signal sophistication or snobbery. They are designed to codify proper social graces so that social interactions are smooth and there's little room for awkwardness or offending someone mistakenly.

Knowing them does signal status or sophistication but that's a by product.

To give you an example, if someone at your table starts eating with the wrong fork, the right thing to do is not to correct them in front of everybody. That is crass and embarrassing.

The right thing is to actually join them, use the same fork and diffuse the awkwardness with everyone else by saying "it looks like the salad fork actually helps you watch your portions better." Most people will get the hint, laugh it off and some will join others won't but no one feels awkward.

Later, privately you can correct the person as politely as you can without making it awkward. They'll be grateful for it.

If you think your sophistication is a way to embarrass or put people down, you're very crass, uncultured and uncouth.

Which apparently many of you are.

[Blessing Oluwafikayo Adisa @Fikkmaths]

Help Make My Scholarship Dream Come True 🙏

I'm Adisa Blessing Oluwafikayo, a First-Class Mathematics graduate (CGPA: 4.76/5.0) from UNILORIN.

I'm happy to have been awarded a fully funded Master's scholarship in Mathematics at the University of Calabria, Italy.

[ODINAKA. El Toro. @TheAjibolaGrey]

Please guys, INEC has extended the deadline date for PVC, the new deadline is the 24th of July.

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#GoNigeria

[Olayinka Post @0xYinka]

"Your papa TV that year when current low"

😂😂😂

[Olúwatósìn Olaseinde @tosinolaseinde]

"The greatest sin you can commit against your own life, is to know what you want...and not to act." - Stafford

[` @chixxsays]

Someone please make sure Ronaldo sees this before the Spain Game

[TheMaven @TheMaven01]

@versaceasanye @instablog9ja Crutech, I guess. Bumped into him some couple of times. Pretty chill, dude

[Alex Onyia @winexviv]

This math teacher, Anthony Iwegbu, walked up to me today to tell me that he is the first in his lineage to have gone abroad. He said that bringing him to Rome, all expenses paid, will change his life forever as a teacher.

At first I didn’t believe it, but I’m happy that his effort as a teacher has made that possible for him.

I really love to see our teachers excel. They have been neglected for so long.

[TheMaven @TheMaven01]

@Yemihazan Straight up.

[Oyinkansola @oyinkanbadejo]

Quality time with people you actually like does wonders for your mental health. I think we underestimate how much good friendships carry us through adulthood.

[Lukas Not Podolski @OtitoNosike]

Life rarely unfolds according to plan.

[Olúwatósìn Olaseinde @tosinolaseinde]

The chances of you giving yourself the life you want is higher than outsourcing it to the generosity of a stranger.

[Eric @amerix]

If you are not ready to have a baby, WEAR A CONDOM.

Or, ABSTAIN during her fertile period.

Don't force a woman to get an implant, a coil or hormonal pills to cover your sexual convenience and primitive cravings.

[Eric @amerix]

The best family planning methods:

• Calendar

• Condom

• Semen retention (Dry Orgasm)

Keep your women away from hormonal contraceptives.

They are harmful to their hormonal, metabolic, and psychological health.

Intra-uterine coils are not safe either.

[Peter Obi @PeterObi]

My Vision for a Productive and Prosperous Nigeria

Today, being the 1st of July, 2026, I wish to humbly recall that when I decided to contest for the office of President of Nigeria, I pledged to place Nigeria on the path of unity and national transformation. Now, as the Nigeria Democratic Congress (NDC) candidate, I will, in the coming weeks and months, provide insights into the roadmap that I am confident will help curb abuse in government, halt the decline in the quality of life of Nigerians at all levels, and usher in an era of unity, peace, sustained progress, and prosperity.

This vision is anchored on a commitment to unity, inclusion, social justice, equity, and the freedom of every citizen to pursue lawful dreams.

Central to this proposed roadmap are significant reforms in education and healthcare, which are at the core of human capital development.

Robust human capital is indispensable infrastructure for national progress. It serves as the fundamental capital upon which daily life, economic expansion, and the delivery of essential public services depend.

These are foundational areas that we must reform with energy and determination if we are to reap the demographic dividend of our youthful population.

From the outset of my presidency, we will establish a task force dedicated to drastically reducing the menace of out-of-school children. We will place greater emphasis on Technical and Vocational Education and Training (TVET) to support our drive for massive industrialisation, anchored on our agricultural endowments and value addition across value chains organised around industrial parks to be located in development zones across the geopolitical regions of the country.

Funding and improving the equipment of TVET institutions, through partnerships among government, the private sector, and social entrepreneurs such as faith-based educators, will facilitate apprenticeship opportunities in the private sector, similar to the German dual education system.

The situation in which unemployment remains high while Nigerian entrepreneurs establish businesses elsewhere because skilled labour is scarce must be confronted decisively. Doing so is essential for the common good and for facilitating our transition from a consumption-driven economy to a production-driven one.

Character and civic education, emphasising the values that foster trust - an essential ingredient for enterprise and leadership - as well as shared national values, will receive significant attention within the tripartite approach to governance that we propose.

A New Nigeria is POssible. -PO

[The Curious Tales @thecurioustales]

I just learned about a concept, I can't stop thinking about.

The Four Burner Theory.

It destroyed Elon Musk's first marriage.
It explains why Bezos is jacked but divorced.

And why Zuckerberg has no real friends.

Once you understand it, your life will never be same:🧵