something to consider with the jupiter x venus conjunction in cancer is that cancer is a sign that reminds us that abundance isn’t always about having “more”. sometimes abundance is just having enough. enough support, enough resources, enough love, enough safety & comfort to stop operating in survival mode for a moment
you’re allowed to love this. the boring part. the unglamorous part. the part you would not put on the internet, the part nobody is going to praise you for. that’s where the joy actually lives. in the small wins nobody saw, behind the closed door, where it was just you and the work and the slow movement of something getting better.
taste that. that’s the game.
The code to reality: Be. Do. Have.
Remember this next time you consider shrinking yourself to make others comfortable.
Yeah, maybe you’re “too much” for some
But if you’re a lot.
You’ll do a lot.
And have a lot.
The same is true for a little.
this is very much the purpose of understanding your birth chart. some of your placements are energies you either avoided, rejected, or overindulged in in your previous lives. this shouldn't feel scary; it should feel liberating because now is the best time to learn and correct.
"authenticity is intertwined with epistemological humility"
this is exactly why I hate the idea of "fake it till you make it" because whatever it is that you (try to) fake is an ego-driven caricature of your potential. or worse, it's simply a copy of what you assume is needed to be you where you = every other person who has what you want.
but the reality of making it demands your absolute presence. and absolute presence is impossible without acknowledging the limitations of now—the limitations of all that you are not in this moment and all that you cannot know of who you can be.
who you’re “supposed to be” is a prediction - “if I act this way I’ll get these outcomes”
but it falls into the realm of “you don’t know what you don’t know” - you don’t know what NEW possibilities open up when you step into your authentic self
those emergent outcomes might be BETTER than the ones you’re predicting now. so authenticity is intertwined with epistemological humility
I used to get a lot of "why are you so quiet" when socializing, which was a surprise to me too because the 1:1 interactions were me talking a lot. Thankfully realized the quietness was a way to avoid being disliked for something I say or do. Now when I'm quiet, it's because I'm not vibing with the energy of the place/people--and I take pride in that.
Are you drained because you’re socializing too much or are you drained because you’re contorting yourself into the most agreeable possible state when you’re socializing?
this is often the initial realization of someone with a 7H mars influence and while everyone can't understand, it does feel draining to have to be mean in any sort of relationship. remediation below; let me explain how this doesn't have to be draining 👇🏽
and once those distinctions are mutually respected, venus can create what she was always trying to create: oneness...a union. but not through self-abandonment. through intimacy between two people who are free to be themselves.