ThePolyCoach

I'm a polyamory relationship coach, musician, and writer. I'm opinionated, but kind. Yes, you saw me on Tiger King. I think that’s weird, too.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

I just published Polyamory — When Challenges are a Catalyst for Growth https://t.co/LSk6IsIRWw

[Gabrielle A. Smith | she/her @gabrielleasmith]

Stop being afraid to get hurt. You will get hurt, that’s how life works. Instead, commit to the lessons life teaches you: how to choose good people in your life, how to enforce boundaries, what is/isn’t for you. Commit to healing, because there’s no such thing as a painless life.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

@TheRealChanee I was walking down the street in my home city, and noticed that the streets were overflowing with dateable-looking people.
There was a game developer conference in town.
Apparently, that's my thing...

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

@BrianCHoward Oh no. That is not right.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

@jackappleby @jk_rowling Perhaps because being strong, capable, or caring aren’t inherently gendered. A woman firefighter is a woman. A male caretaker is a guy. That isn’t trans, it’s just being a well-rounded person.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

@JamalKingi @Pimpeaux @NoContextVarg What in the everloving hell did I just read?

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

@LuxuryTweeting @SamplingKid @MasculineTakes Nope. Sorry to burst your bubble. Women definitely cuddle.

[Erin Reed @erininthemorning.com on Bsky @ErinInTheMorn]

Idaho's house just passed HB 675.

It passed by a vote of 55-13.

It would make providing gender affirming care to trans teens a felony with a life sentence..

Worse... it makes leaving the state with your trans teen to move elsewhere and provide them with care a felony as well.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

Trans kids and their families are in increasing danger. If Texans need a place to stay safe, Austin and Travis County are an option. I am so very sorry that you are being targeted like this. It’s horrific.

[Chuck Lindell @chucklindell]

JUST IN: Tomorrow, local leaders will declare Austin and Travis County to be a safe and inclusive place for transgender families.
This is in response to Gov. Abbott's directive to treat gender-affirming medical care as child abuse.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

I am disappointed but not surprised. I’d like to boost this signal. When people are victimized by a community, it’s everyone’s job to address it. As a cis in a queer friendly bubble, I don’t see it. Doesn’t mean it’s not there. I would love to know more about how this manifests.

[The Mona Show @themonashow_]

There's a trans fetishism problem in the polyamory community and *no one* talks about it.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

Why is this woman always so on point?!
#polyamory #love #Mentalhealth

[Dr. Jen Wolkin | ADHD + Trauma Therapist @drjenwolkin]

Commitment to healing our childhood wounds so they don’t get displaced onto a current relational dynamic

IS. A. LOVE. LANGUAGE.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

Absolutely. Compersion (joy felt at seeing another’s joy - the opposite of jealousy) is beautiful, but it isn’t a necessity. Sometimes things are hard, or our feelings are mixed. It’s okay to be where you are. We can be joyfully polyamorous and still struggle.

#polyamory

[Ready for Polyamory 🤍💛💙❤️💜 @ready4polyamory]

It seems unpopular, but I want my polyamory to worry less about compersion and more about compassion.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

Poly folks going through breakups sometimes downplay the hurt. They try to be philosophical and accepting before they’ve done their grieving.
Take care of your wounded heart. Your pain is legitimate.

#polyamory #breakup #healing #love #relationships

[Dr. Jen Wolkin | ADHD + Trauma Therapist @drjenwolkin]

Grief has no timeline.

You’re NOT disordered if you’re still grieving a loss you (or other people) think you “should be over by now.”

Loss is painful. Grief is a neurobiological response.

Let yourself grieve (WITH support of a professional if needed) without the shame.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

@thepolyamfam You win!!!

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

A group of gelatinous cubes should be called…a schloop!

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

This is such a succinct and clearly stated definition of Relationship Anarchy (a term that is often abused and misrepresented). I saw this just before a session, and actually logged on again to read it to my clients. I will definitely be quoting you in the future @TheMonaGee

[The Mona Show @themonashow_]

Relationship Anarchy is not freedom from responsibility. Instead, it's the radical notion that we are responsible to everyone we care about, not just romantic partners. That we have the freedom to customize the commitment of responsibility as fits with this we care about.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

@SloaneFragment What the everloving hell?

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

@Jugglerofgeese2 Oh. That is awful. I’m so sorry. That guy is a pathetic pos, and entirely wrong.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

Transitions - even ones we deeply desire - can be really challenging. Mourning what was can be a healthy and necessary part of embracing what is. This is complicated stuff. Conflicting feelings are natural.

[Open Relating 💞 @openrelating]

Transitioning from monogamy to multigamy:
It's natural to grieve for the relationship you thought you wanted and no longer have, while at the same time celebrating a new relationship you create.
Don't underestimate the care and attention that grieving for this loss, requires.

[ThePolyCoach @ThePolyCoach]

@_DaniBeck I hear that. Fully. I’m sorry for what you went through/are going through.