the type of person i am ion have it in me to do ill to anyone i cross paths w cs its jus not my character , but why tf do i constantly try to care about the feelings of those who constantly show its fuck mines when given any chance to ? shit is heartbreaking but fuck it 🤷🏽♂️💯
the way im feeling these days , a mf could ask me if im okay & id prolly jus start crying . giving shit my all & getting ass to kiss in return or jus everybody showing how little i mean to em when i move mountains for literally any & everyone & do my best to make em feel great 🤦🏽♂️
& dating someone w none is not easy either . cs everything is an attack or controlling or an argument or jus whatever tf they cant grasp in the moment cs all they hear is "PROBLEMS blah blah blah NAGGING blah blah ARGUING blah blah" . 🤦🏽♂️ shit is NOT fa the weak .
Dating someone with high emotional intelligence is not easy.
They notice patterns, inconsistencies, and emotional shifts. You can’t manipulate them, play the victim, or hide behind silence. They expect honesty, accountability, and growth. Repeated apologies without real change are not enough.
Dating someone with high emotional intelligence is not easy.
They notice patterns, inconsistencies, and emotional shifts. You can’t manipulate them, play the victim, or hide behind silence. They expect honesty, accountability, and growth. Repeated apologies without real change are not enough.
date idea : show up to a fucking couple's therapist w them & make they ass go in there & see the stupid shit they be doing & HELP your relationship cs they damn sure ain gone listen to you . like we gone get to the bottom of why you think certain shit is ever okay/acceptable .😂
i started doubting myself because of you. I began wondering if I was asking for too much just by wanting consistent effort and basic communication.
I stopped bringing up how I felt because I didn’t want to seem difficult or push you away. I kept shrinking my needs and swallowing my disappointment, telling myself that maybe I was just too sensitive.
I stayed hopeful even when the signs were clear. I convinced myself that things would get better if I just loved you more patiently and gave you more space. I kept choosing you every single day while it felt like you were slowly choosing everything else over me.
One day, when you’re with someone who makes you feel like you have to hide parts of yourself just to keep them around, you’ll think of me. You’ll remember how I tried to love you without making you feel pressured, and how I stayed soft even when it hurt.
And it will finally hit you that you lost someone who only ever wanted to make things easier for you not harder.
Communication is not arguing. Somebody telling you what they need is not arguing. Somebody telling you to do more so they feel loved by you is not arguing. Somebody telling you how you hurt them is not arguing. Hearing what you don't want to hear is not arguing! Speaking on what bothers them is not arguing... You learn to communicate when you actually and truly care✍🏾
its some bout your gma praying over you that jus calms your spirit entirely 🥺🫶🏽she didnt forget bout my appt today , she never does . im such a gmas baby 🥹
One thing I'll always hate and love about myself is in order for me to move on from something, first I need to be completely destroyed by it. And it's not a lack of self love, it's the damn faith I have in believing that everything can change.
Please appreciate your relationship while you still have each other. Don’t let anger, ego, or misunderstandings ruin something beautiful. Every couple fights, but what matters is choosing to communicate, understand, and fix things together instead of walking away.
Life is too short to waste time staying mad. If you truly love each other, work through the hard days as a team. One day, you might regret not trying when you still had the chance.
i don’t think people understand how exhausting it is to be the one who always stays. the one who gives grace, offers another chance, and keeps choosing understanding over resentment. because eventually you realize you’ve been extending a level of patience that was never going to be returned to you.
get someone who is happy to be with you. someone who is scared of losing you. someone who is proud to show you off. someone who loves you with all of their heart and someone who is excited to share the rest of their life with you.