Lori Rose

Working to end violence & abuse and create healthy connections | educator | speaker | survivor advocate | artist | trauma-informed coach | therapeutic movement

[Lori Rose @therosemodel]

Note from a stranger where the world stops. I stepped away from social media for a long while after a physical assault in 2016 and being one of the first to lose a loved one to Covid in 2020. She lost her Dad too, and gets it. We’re not alone. Compassion still lives.

[Kristin Urquiza @kdurquiza.bsky.social @kdurquiza]

@therosemodel @MarkedByCovid Ditto, my sibling-in-covid-grief. It’s a loss I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. My heart is with you too. Here if you ever need a friend who gets it.

[Lori Rose @therosemodel]

@MeetJess Thank you so much for this, and for who you are and all you do!

[Lori Rose @therosemodel]

@MeetJess Hi, I would love a code if still available. I’ve been searching for small N95’s that fit for so long!

[Janelle Scales (she/her) @nellie_scales]

Unpopular opinion:

I don’t want you to have it hard because I had it hard.

I want you to have more support than I did. I want your burden to be lighter. I want you to have community that cares for you. I want you to know you don’t have to do it all alone.

[Lori Rose @therosemodel]

@michaelsorrell I did. I worked at the library. I still needed an additional job to support myself, but I was grateful I could get a job on campus through work study that cared about and could accommodate my school schedule.

[Lori Rose @therosemodel]

@AlexSVenet Thank you for sharing this! I love The Politics of Trauma and am reading Judith Herman’s books now. Healing Resistance just went next on my list!

[Dr Emma Katz @DrEmmaKatz]

Data from 28 European countries found 45% of women who reported experiencing very high levels of control from their current partner were not being subjected to any violence from this partner.

Domestic abuse without physical violence is really common & needs more acknowledgement.

[Lori Rose @therosemodel]

@KymGhee @MuseWendi @MeetJess Hi Kym, you’re not alone in caring! On fb Still Coviding groups can be a good resource, and @covidisntover here keeps a great calendar of community events.

[Lori Rose @therosemodel]

@JoannaisWriting For me it looks like no more nightmares about the perpetrator. Everything is more vibrant — the sky, relationships, pleasure, my inner pilot light. I know how to name what I need now, and have spaces where I’m safe to do that, every time.

Gratitude and hope to all here. 💫

[Dr Emma Katz @DrEmmaKatz]

We think we could spot an abuser.

But then an abuser comes along & love bombs us/pretends to be so nice. Their abuse may be subtle, cleverly disguised & ambiguous. They seem like a good person with problems, not an abuser. They are popular & well liked.

We think: if only we could explain ourselves to the abuser better & clear up the misunderstanding that must have taken place, things would get better. But there was no misunderstanding, just an abuser disguising their abuse.

And we get harmed, just like everyone else does. Because it was never that easy to spot an abuser.

[Lori Rose @therosemodel]

@iamDrWill https://t.co/xsVVZljnrl

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

When a survivor is met with "Stop dwelling on it" not only does this silence them when needing to be heard, but also tells them "These are our expectations of you since you're hurting." This crushes hope that they're understood & delays finding healing where it's needed most.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Love bombing is when someone you've just met showers you with attention and affection.

It can feel intoxicating, but it's actually a form of emotional manipulation.

HOW TO SPOT IT (🧵):

[Lori Rose @therosemodel]

@cherylofkamiah @jritzsullivan @JanethNunezdelP @nbcsnl @kdurquiza My heart is with you, and you are right. This is such a touching photo.

None of us were allowed to be there when my Dad passed from COVID in April 2020. I’m grateful to the nurse who assured me on the phone she’d be with him that day. There’s no way I will watch the SNL video.

[Lori Rose @therosemodel]

@kdurquiza I can’t watch this. “Where my nightmare is your joke” has been gut wrenching and indescribably isolating from the very beginning. With you in solidarity, sister in grief.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

Guilt about other peoples' actions isn't yours to carry. Really.

Sadness, anger, disgust? Sure.

But trying to hold yourself responsible for someone else's choices is a straight shot to burnout, helplessness, & relapse. (Ask me how I know.)

[FVAP @fvap_law]

Many people understand physical and verbal abuse. Other forms can be harder to identify. Cultural abuse is when someone uses aspects of their partner's culture, identity or spirituality, to inflict suffering or as a means of control.

#SocialJustice #LegalAid #DVAM

[Dr Emma Katz @DrEmmaKatz]

Victims-survivors of domestic abuse can usually describe a long period of feeling confused, doubting their own perceptions, not really being sure what was happening, and blaming themselves and genuinely thinking they were causing the problem.

[Annika Hansteen-Izora @annikaizora]

When bell hooks said: “To be truly visionary we have to root our imagination in our concrete reality while simultaneously imagining possibilities beyond that reality.”

[Lori Rose @therosemodel]

@swfranks @FitFounder @DStrachman I’ve not had the experience so speaking as aspiring ally — I’ve never had a “tolerance” & suspect I never will. I can’t stand being anywhere remotely professional or where I need to be fully alert (as a woman near always) & not be 100% of sound mind. I’m happy to not drink w/you!