The Unfinished Business

I help people process the Unfinished Business in their nervous systems. EMDR & ego state trauma specialist, and lover/historian of 18th-century libertine art.

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

Working with the unfinished business is an excavation. When you clear an emotion, the next layer of emotion makes itself known. Some layers require more time and distance. Eventually, it is possible to clear all the layers on a particular memory, to come to the other side.

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

What's some of your unfinished emotional business?

Part of the unfinished business for me was going back in my mind to the places where I lived as a child and saying goodbye.

Grieving the lost cultures of each place.
#unfinishedbusiness #unfinishedgrief
#mentalhealth
#Grief

[Dr. Jessica Taylor @DrJessTaylor]

HUGE NEWS!

United Nations & World Health Organisation new report stating that the medical model of mental health needs to be overhauled; and that psychiatric diagnosis, labelling & pathologising people who are traumatised, abused, in poverty, & oppressed impacts human rights.

[Defend Survivors @defendsurvivors]

Why do survivors of sexual and domestic abuse have PTSD and symptoms like those that have been in battle, terrorized, and tortured? Because they have been in a battle and terrorized and tortured. #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth #DVAM

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

The many healthy forms of naps:

[The Guardian @guardian]

You snooze, you muse: how to nap like a genius https://t.co/RvtTYFD63F

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

Anxiety and depression can often be the buildup of unfinished business in the nervous system. What feelings from moments in the past could not be fully felt? What actions could not be fully taken? Words not fully spoken?
#anxiety #depression #mentalhealth

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

Intensive therapy can provide an opportunity to address a good portion of the unfinished business in a short amount of time: in a half-day, full-day, or multi-day therapy retreat.
#EMDR #intensivetherapy #traumahealing #UnfinishedBusiness

[Danielle Lenhard, Ph.D., LICSW (she/her) @DanielleLenhard]

Curious about intensive therapy? Check out this short intro to intensives, a video we made at The Trauma Institute. Two clients share their experiences.
#victimsofcrimegrant #traumaintensive #EMDR #progressivecounting
https://t.co/y34TEgpstK

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

Resolving the unfinished business in our nervous systems can include finding a way to break the silence.
#ancestortrauma #Healing #unfinishedbusiness

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

Completing the unfinished business in your nervous system (and the unfinished business of your ancestors) has direct benefits for your descendants (and for so many others in your life).

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

Hanging out with that vision and the feelings for as long as one needs, but not getting stuck there. Eventually, coming back to look at what did happen, with fresh eyes, and feeling what comes up in the body, is another layer of unfinished business.

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

Sometimes the unfinished business is the feeling of #wishing that things from the past were different. For some folks, taking the time to visualize the wished-for alt reality a few times, and fully feeling the feelings that come up, can help to shift that deep feeling of longing.

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

Often the unfinished business involves unfinished or unexpressed anger. It must find its way out of the body. There are many healthy ways to do this.

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

Anger is not a negative or positive emotion. It is a necessary emotion for those needing to respond to injustice that is felt inside their mind and bodies.

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

@jessejanderson And forgetting unfinished emotions until the next similar thing triggers them...

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

The unfinished business of not having enough information about what is going on with the adults around us, as children.

[Elena Lister MD @elenalistermd1]

People worry that it will alarm a child to tell them of a death of someone not in their everyday lives.Yet children sense when people around them are sad. If you don't explain it, they can think they caused your sadness. Honest, gentle conversation with

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

Sometimes the unfinished business is reenvisioning speaking up about needs to a loving parent. Sometimes the unfinished business is finding loving adults in the present. And always, if it hasn't happened yet, it entails learning to speak up and voice needs in the present.

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

The child who grows up believing their needs are too much, becomes the adult who is afraid to ask for what they need.

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

Sometimes the unfinished business is the last thing you feel like doing. #procrastination #VLPFC #intergenerationaltrauma

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

@dorothyjberry Eric Rohmer's Moral Tales series is just gorgeous

[Grace 🌱 @GraceFVictory]

My friend cancelled our dinner. I asked her if it was cause of her mental health. She said “yes I don’t want to cry over dinner”. I said “don’t come and rest if you need to but don’t not come cause you’re scared of being vulnerable”. She changed her mind and is going to come.

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

@EmilyKHoffmann Ghosts' unfinished business.

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

@Learnaboutgrief Is that also what you've experienced? You said something in one of your posts about joy and grief existing side by side, I think. I loved that, to be able to carry both, side by side. It can take time to get there, in my experience of grief.

[The Unfinished Business @TheUnfinishedB]

Reclaiming blocked joy is also part of the unfinished business.