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[Tai Lopez @tailopez]

Marcus Aurelius was right, you have mistaken comfort for peace for so long that discipline now feels like suffering.

[Grant Lannin @retirementkeys]

Run a month (or 90-day) experiment where you remove all 'conditional confidence' or 'conditional action'

Most are like "I'll wait till x $$ amount to x,y,z". Or "i'll wait till x bodyfat % to x,y,z". Whatever it is, that you genuinely feel is true - experiment with letting it go for 30 days. Run a cheatcode on yourself

Hilarious part is, if you stick to this, you will see what you thought mattered, never actually did. And that's "level 1" - fully seeing the entire narrative/conditionality of it was bullshit

"level 2" is when you see that it is also a handicap. Meaning, to hinge x on y is a fundamentally weaker position than not having that hinge in place. It's a self-generated, non-advantaged position.

And it really only takes 30 days of aggressive experimental action to get both insights. But you have to fully commit.

"what if that wasn't true? and I operated as if it wasn't?"

Then when you fully realize it isn't from an embodied pov (and not just logically), you're like "oh"... lot of wasted time

[s44nti @s44nti]

hoy mi psicóloga dijo que no necesito aceptar el comportamiento del otro solo porque entiendo los motivos que tiene para actuar así

[Grant Lannin @retirementkeys]

If you feel super fucking empty inside, like you can't even find yourself in your own life, then you need to step up your design game, and shift the nucleus of your designs from "4d other-people perceiving me anticipation of gaystatus" to FUN. I guarantee this will magnify the color in your life fairly rapidly, IF you have the nuts/balls for it. Most do not, and that's also partially why they are down bad, because they subconsciously know they are afraid to live. They know they being a bitch. They know their psychological optionality has collapsed down to virtually 0 due to fear, and they fucking hate themselves for that

Luckily it's not jover. You just need a new strategy

Step 1 - let go of all "shoulds". I "should" be at x point. I "should" be doing x,y,z. Fuck all of them. Hit the delete button.

Step 2 - ask yourself what DAY would be fun as fuck. Design your day. It all starts here. If you had a super fucking fun day, how would it look?

Step 3 - ask yourself "what would be a fun fucking way to make some cash". Bartending in dope city? Skydive lesson instrcuter? Nanny in off-grid hawaiin hill mansion? Ur own little info biz? What the fuck seems exciting?

Step 4 - actually go after it

The benefit of this small exercise is you've just designed a life with YOU included into it. If you hate ur shit rn, it's because there is no *you* in it. It's all what you think you SHOULD do, or how you think you SHOULD look.

Do you have the nuts to live for ur own enjoyment? Can you muster the internal strength to say "fuck their rulebook" & actually begin designing with a little fucking pep in your step? or do you need their ARHF ARHF ARHF sealclaps to not hate yourself, because you're afraid that you don't know who you are?

[No filter Skin @NoFilterSkin]

Married couples don’t need another dinner and Netflix date night.

You need something that makes you feel like people again, not just two tired roommates coordinating snacks, bedtime and the dishwasher.

Here are 40 date ideas for couples who want to actually reconnect:

[Dear Self. @Dearme2_]

Real Talk.

[Mr Melancholy @chakravartiiin]

I wish I could show vozinha to all kids who take their life after one failed exam he literally picked Garbage at 25 then started playing in his late 20s and now at 40 he's delivered his best game at fifa world cup event against one of the most domiant teams.

People would have you believe that your life is over if you don't XYZ thing by a certain age but the truth is that It just takes just one BIG WIN to cancel out all the loses of life but you have to believe, work and live for that WIN.

[blue @bluewmist]

You need to be attention-span-maxing.

Watch 3 hour talks. Read books for hours at a time. Watch the entire movie, without taking a break. Stare into space losing yourself in thought and imagination. Do not check your phone. The opposite of brain-rot is the will to focus in a culture which wants to pull you every other way.

[Day @Daywrotethis]

If you love anyone or have loved anyone in your life
this is a must read

[Miilato @litteralyme0]

The way I go from “I need to lock in” to “I'm goated” to “why do I even exist” to “we're so back” is so tuff

[iAm-paquetta @guesswhoiiamm]

The feeling when you start falling in love with the grind. You just know you’re making it for sure.

[blue @bluewmist]

YOU MUST LEARN TO ENJOY LIFE WITHOUT NEEDING AN AUDIENCE TO SEE THAT YOU ARE ENJOYING LIFE

[livia bennet🦊 @livibennet]

Se você tem um homem que faz de tudo para te ver feliz e está sempre te mimando, retribua! Não deixe a internet te enganar com esse discurso de que isso é o mínimo ou obrigação dele. A internet está fazendo as mulheres perderem homens incríveis.

[Sonia @BalogunSonia4]

Some men don’t understand the importance of having a woman who genuinely likes them. Not for the sex or the money, but for who you are. She will do so much for you.. not because she has to, but because she wants to. Don’t mess it up, because once she loses that feeling, you can’t get it back. You won’t find that kind of love from many women these days. 💯

[Amigo @Topboix]

If u ask your girlfriend what they like about u and they answer something related to what u do for them or how u make them feel I'm so sorry

[thermo @DionysianAgent]

the best test of masculinity tbh is playfulness and humor

the less playful a man is, the more insecure he is

i find this to be the case 99% of the time and i usually always select my friends based on whether or not we can vibe and play and laugh together

the inability to play and have fun and make fun out of things is a form of fragility

even with myself this is the case

the more relaxed and secure and confident i am, the more playful and humorous i also become

likewise the more stressed i am, the more i lose my capacity for play and fun

[conduct|r @conductr_]

according to stoicism, a life wasted by fear, inaction, and doubt is the worst thing you can do. your lack of urgency and imagination is killing your potential.

[blue @bluewmist]

My therapist told me:

“When a person grows up feeling unseen, they learn to love by over-giving. They pour into everyone else, hoping that, one day, someone will finally pour back into them. So they become the care taker. The fixer. The one who shows up, even when no one shows up for them.”
And the hardest part? Deep down, they're not trying to be strong. They're just waiting for someone to do for them what they've spent their whole life doing for everyone else.

[iAm-paquetta @guesswhoiiamm]

The universe guarantees you'll improve if you keep trying. The universe doesn’t reward talent, luck, or intelligence first , it rewards relentless consistency