This works in relationships too. Never beg for love. The only time an apology is warranted is when you are genuinely wrong, outside of that, never beg for affection. Never plead for someone to stay, to care, to choose you. It reeks of desperation, and desperation has never once made anyone more desirable. As Duma Boko said, “if they want to leave, help them get out.”
now for the part most people won’t talk about; NOT GOING BACK TO ZERO.
although it’s more of a warning than an advice as a lot of you will still do what you have in mind but here goes nothing…
inasmuch as a lot of you won 8 figures in naira, and when converted to usdt, might not be much…it is very important you don’t go back to zero.
forget tweeps with brain rot rhetorics. 10 million, 15 million, etc. Is enough to set up you for life if you are sensible person, provided you don’t;
* give back to sport with hope of making the money x2, x3, etc:
* prioritize needs before wants.
* don’t let the euphoria of having your first milli cloud your judgment of financial stability.
* do not attempt to make investments in things that won’t give you passive income.
* avoid land purchase and car purchases except you got up to 50 meter, then maybe get that car.
* avoid attempting to solve all preexisting family problem(s) and the ones to come. na money you win, you never really arrive.
* if you must, take 2-3 days off and think well before making stupid decisions that only makes sense in your head.
* if it’s not much on you, after setting up yourself, set up a small business for your dad or mom, if they don’t have any- you will understand why when things don’t go well later.
* give your girlfriend space for some days while you plan your life. she doesn’t deserve to know you hit that jackpot.
8 figures in naira is a decent amount of money to never go broke again…but the euphoria of it being your first win might tell you otherwise,
be wise. it may not happen to you again.
yagazie. 🖤
On today's chronicles of the moving man.
It is in the wisdom of the moving man to invest in a compass before he starts moving.
To learn from others who have travelled, with his own background.
For the moving man to know the road ahead, he needs to ask those coming back.
The moving man, shouldn't because of the fear of uncertainties, decide to stop moving.
The moving man is allowed to take pauses, in between his movements.
He should take the bold risks of detours, hitchhiking and redirections.
The moving man should keep moving, regardless.
The other day, I was having a conversation with my partner and she asked me what I would do if she cheated. I told her, nothing. I would not fight, nor would I shout. I would simply live in the understanding that she had acted out a possibility I had always known existed.
To love someone is to accept, from the very beginning, that they possess the capacity to betray you. Fidelity is never guaranteed; it is a choice made and remade in private, day after day, until one day it is no longer made at all. And when that happens, all that remains is the sober recognition that the person has revealed a truth about themselves and, perhaps, about the relationship itself.
That would be the end of us, of course. She would move on with her life, and I with mine. Cheating is unforgivable to me, but it is not something I would lose sleep over. Surprise has no place in my understanding of love. Pain, certainly. Disappointment, perhaps. But never surprise.