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[nat @thisisnotwine]

when u play, play as hard as you can
but when u work, don't play at all.

[Libriscent @libriscent]

Adult life is realizing that an empty evening, a stocked fridge, clean sheets, and nobody asking anything from you can feel wildly luxurious.

[Collins🦋 @collinstimbela_]

Believe me when I say, women who have been single for a long time can be harder to impress. They're independent, self-sufficient, and at peace on their own. If a man doesn't add value to their life, they have no problem choosing to stay single.

[. @deityofnightt]

the purest form of love is consideration. when someone thinks about how things would make you feel. pays attention to detail. holds you in regard when making decisions that could affect you. In any bond, how much they care about you can be found in how much they consider you. clear and simple

[Mindset Machine  @mindsetmachine]

Being alone doesn't bother me.

What bothers me is when I finally let people in, and they ruin the peace I created for myself.

[• @WordsCocoon]

you are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequences of your choice.

[𝐗𝐈𝐕🐿 @EvaPeach338101]

if you gave up on me while i was getting my shit together .. i appreciate you

[rose @wynrosei]

you're going to marry a man who pulls you closer when you're overthinking instead of pulling away and leaving you alone with your darkest thoughts. someone who keeps you warm every night and never misses a moment to make you feel loved and understood. a man who randomly spoils you & tells you how sexy you look. and when you go to bed every night you'll know that
GOD answered all your prayers with extra blessings

[maneesha @ManeeshaSem]

being healthily loved looks like

• emotionally intelligent conversations
• unexplainable trust and safety
• they reaffirm their love for you consistently
• they take your emotions/perspectives seriously without calling them silly
• you feel like you can tell them anything without fear
• they try their best to understand you instead of reacting from their shadows
• they protect you from their shadows
• you feel like you’re on the same team
• your body feels relaxed
• your nervous system unwinds more and more everyday
• if there are moments of contrast, they show up from a place of love for you over wanting to be right

[+ @lkhdme]

gotta start rewarding my intuition with gratitude, instead of the grief of feeling bad for being right.

[Wealth Director @wealth_director]

One of the most powerful things you can do for your life is learn how to be alone.

Not lonely.

Just comfortable with your own thoughts, your own plans, and your own direction.

Because the moment you stop needing constant validation, you become extremely dangerous.

[🍂 @Lovandfear]

“The older I get, the more comfortable I am with letting things go. Everything doesn't warrant a reaction, response, or rebuttal. I am most peaceful when I preserve my energy for things that elevate ease in my life.”

— Alex Elle

[​𝐥𝐲𝐫𝐚 @sunnkssdseraph]

The most expensive type of woman is the one who's not going to ask you for money. She's not going to ask you to pay her bills she's not going to ask you to fund her lifestyle, she's not going to ask you to pay her rent, she's not going to ask you for money for her nails, for her hair, none of that and that is because she can do all of those things on her own. Women nowadays are more financially independent than ever before throughout history. Women who operate like this, they're looking for things that cost a lot more than money. They're looking for loyalty, they're looking for respect, they're looking for open communication, they're looking for reciprocity, they're looking for a man to match her energy to see her eye to eye and to match on her level. To a woman like that, money comes and goes and because she already has it on her own she ain't looking for that. She's looking for emotional stability. She's looking for loyalty, a masculine presence and a man who's emotionally intelligent. She is not out here looking for a provider. You think she's looking for that? She's already her own provider, and she's doing it well. So a woman like this is going to cost you a lot more than the woman who was asking you for money. She is looking for a man who matches her, not her bank account, but her standards. Her character, her vision. And her level of self-awareness.

[Bethel @Bethelofenugu]

"my feelings are hurt and i need time to process them so i can better communicate with you" is a perfectly valid response & i wish we used it more in moments of conflict

[Reads with Ravi @readswithravi]

I’m in love with this sentence:

“Consistency looks like nothing is happening, until everything changes.”

[stressed @onlystresstoday]

i never leave when it gets hard, I leave when it gets inconsiderate, inconsistent, and disrespectful.

[Philosophy Sage @philosophysage]

50 things to do instead of wasting another year:

( start them in May )

[𝖑𝖔𝖔𝖙𝖊𝖉 @6looted]

"If you don't fit into the crowd, it means your place is on the stage."

[‏ً @itsnwts]

in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you're innocent in the story you created.

[liminal @Liminal1988]

Rock bottom is a gift, too.

[Joy Joy @Joyoky1]

At some point, you will have to disappoint others to live a life that is honest to you. People-pleasing will drain you, not save you. You have every right to set boundaries and choose your peace; you can disappoint people and still be a good person.