That person that said when it comes to parent-child relationships they like to pick who to have those conversations with because most people no matter how intelligent, are always ready to downplay and ignore the harm that parents cause, was very right.
It’s why love is just an entry-level trait in a relationship. What makes or keeps a relationship is ultimately dependent on will, consideration and conscious effort.
@Zoemkoena Exactly! And if you’re attributing the problem to the wrong source then you’re not going to fix it and people should be able to criticise your argument on that ground. It’s ridiculous to see only the critique as intellectualism but not the argument it is responding to
Watching both your husband and your son beat on another woman over something your husband caused and seeing nothing wrong with that? Some boy moms are such enablers of violence bc they think they’re exempt from being victims themselves and that’s disgusting.
When you break away from patterns your family or environment normalized, you often end up in a strange middle ground. You're too different for where you came from and not quite molded enough for the spaces you're entering. It can be lonely, but that's often the price of choosing