@StirlingWisdom Choreplay can work depending on the chore and she has to be attracted to you (has to be a man chore). For example, I changed the snow tires off my girlfriend's car. Her watching me doing it was hot and we had fun after.
@StirlingWisdom I can understand leading a woman even if you are a guy who is a virgin in a real world scenario (guy, you instinctively know what to do).
It's odd (perhaps not, because it's still s*x) that they would not respect you for producing a better scene. It's acting.