Dear young men,
Especially those of you between the ages of 27-33 and are still single.
This is how you know that you may have found your wife:
1. She's highly interested in what you do legitimately for a living, actively trying to encourage you to build your career or business, and always looking out for other opportunities for you.
2. If you live alone, she takes initiatives without being told by observing your home and trying to buy things she knows you need to live a better life in preparation for marriage.
3. She will hardly ask you for money, not because she doesn't need it, but because it's easy for her to get money from other men. And she knows that taking money from other men is an "invitation to treat", and can destroy her relationship with you. And she wouldn't want to make you feel that she's with you for your money, too.
4. When you give her money to do certain things, either for you or for her, she'll try to give you an account of how she spent the money.
5. She keeps boundaries with your friends and doesn't try to compare you with them. Rather, she would look out for that friend whom she observes has your best interests at heart, and encourage you to stay close to him.
6. She will not use sex as a weapon in the relationship, neither would she use it as a bargaining chip.
7. She actively gives you updates on how her day went, and she doesn't come to your house with her phone on silent mode or airplane mode.
8. She will try to abide by how you like her to dress, and she'll listen to you when you caution her about certain behavior that you do not like.
9. She'll actively want you to know her siblings and show interest in and respect for your siblings as well.
10. She'll not hold back if you ask her to lend you money, if she has it. But you, the man, must keep to your words when paying her back.
11. She'll bend many rules for you, but you should not take undue advantage of it.
12. She'll stress you sometimes, and test you in as many ways as possible. She's doing all that to see how well you can lead her, and how well you can control your emotions or anger.
13. She'll make mistakes. But you should use it as a teaching moment for her. If you don't judge her too harshly, she'll start to listen to you more. When you make a woman trust you with her vulnerability, she'll overlook some of your excesses.
14. She'll actively seek your validation and yours alone; whatever you say is good for her, she will accept it. And she won't care what the world says or feels about her.
15. She will not force you to be religious, but she will actively observe whether you respect God, because a man without God may not be a good leader.
If you have a lady that can do at least 10 out of the 15, you may have found your wife.
And remember, when you choose your wife, you have chosen your destiny.
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When writing your posts, learn to use line breaks.
Putting too many sentences together doesn't make reading more interesting.
Write a few sentences, then leave a line space and continue.
And learn to use proper punctuation as much as possible.
You'd excite your readers.
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When most women are tired of the marriage and want out, some become deliberately rebellious, disrespectful, disobedient, verbally abusive, and start denying their husbands sex, all to provoke him into reacting.
The moment he finally snaps out of frustration, she uses that reaction as “evidence” of domestic violence and files for divorce.
MEN PAY ATTENTION!!!😎
Ayatul Kursi is honestly one of the most powerful dua ever. Reciting it after every Fard Salah is literally the key to Paradise. Nothing but death will separate you from entering Jannah, how powerful is that? Such a simple habit yet such a big reward, SubhanAllah
Let me say something.
And this is for young girls.
It's not easy to remain a virgin or stay celibate if you're not a virgin.
Because men will always chase you for sex.
And men know this.
Hence, they do not mind marrying a non-virgin woman.
However, there is one major advantage you may have if you're able to keep your virginity for your husband alone.
Because he knows your sexual history, you may not be silently judged by him in a negative way, if getting pregnant for your first child becomes prolonged in your marriage.
He would be very patient and understanding, and he may even agree that both of you should first try adoption pending when God blesses your womb.
Or he would be willing to spend heavily to make sure that both of you succeed in bringing forth a child or children.
And he won't regret it if all his monies spent didn't yield any positive result.
So, please be careful with your sexual life and avoid doing dangerous abortions that may have a lasting negative impact on your fertility health.
I know that many of you enjoy sex without condoms. But the risks of contracting damaging STDs are there.
Enjoy your preeq but protect your womb.
Improve on your personal hygiene too.
It's not easy for couples who are still TTC. If it happens that the problem is yours and your husband didn't meet you as a virgin, he may be low-key questioning your sexual history and getting frustrated as the wait stretches.
For men,
Infertility isn't only a women problem.
These days, young men are experiencing low sperm counts due to unhealthy lifestyles.
Please ensure that you go get tested before you marry a wife.
So that you don't frustrate your wife.
Because most of the time, the society always assumes that the problem is from the woman.
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The problem is that you think you’re with people
As a man you’re standing alone, when I say alone I literally mean ALONE
The only people that will stretch themselves a little for you are your family & that too has its limits
Plan your life. Secure yourself because you’re ALONE
Many people lost everything before rebuilding their lives, even bigger.
Sometimes the real tragedy is not losing money… it is losing courage after losing money.
Do not be scared to try again.