Women reject broke men and call it standards. Men reject single moms and get called immature. Women reject short men and call it preference. Men reject overweight women and get accused of body shaming. The issue isn’t standards. The issue is who is allowed to have them.
If a man flirts with you knowing you have a boyfriend, he’s not thinking you’re an amazing woman.
He’s thinking you’re willing to entertain attention outside your relationship.
The moment he knows you’re taken and still shoots his shot, he’s not admiring your loyalty. He’s betting against it.