yes. and there’s also a correlation between survival mode and not wanting to dress well, adorn yourself, do self care, do your hair, nourish yourself. you just don’t have energy to care about beauty and sensuality because your nervous system is busy keeping you safe.
At this big age when people show signs of hidden animosity or weird energy, I just remove myself. I’m not trying to understand you and I’m not trying to make it make sense
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
turns out, reading voraciously, moving your body, loving people without keeping score, protecting your solitude, chasing nothing but your own growth, and occasionally staying out too late with people who make you laugh until it hurts is not a bad way to build a life.
Bc nobody wants to deal with people when they’re depressed. People will get sick of you, and quickly, and before you know it you’re losing people bc you’re ’negative’ and ‘draining’. Best kept to yourself if you can keep yourself safe.
all relationships can survive mistakes, but they cannot survive patterns. Repeated behavior isn't a mistake, it's a decision, apologies lose meaning when the actions never change