Fun fact:
If you’re only valued when you’re radiant, sensual and sweet but not when you’re sad, frustrated, or needing emotional depth then you’re being objectified and this goes for friendships too
I’ve never taken anything men did to me personally because they will treat you terribly because they are fighting internal battles of inadequacy and sometimes possible closeted homosexuality.
I can’t compete with someone’s self hatred, that’s between them and God.
Unpopular opinion: The fact that they can quickly install data centers nationally means they could've been updating infrastructure which they claimed was too difficult and expensive.
Mind u half of Ontario wouldn’t be on fire rn if y’all just allowed the indigenous people to do the controlled burning like they’ve been doing instead of chopping trees down and putting oil lines everywhere but like…what do I know, I just take basket weaving classes
It is very easy to tell which girl is an in girl and which girl is an out
At least for me now it is
I spent most of my life trying to force myself into becoming an in girl. In the groups. In the group chats. In the weddings. In the invitations. In the group pictures. In on the plans. In on anything
I spent years feeling bad and like something was wrong with me. Maybe something is, I’ve yet to find out, but what I have found out and what I have learned is to make peace with this fact
I will never be part of the group. I will never be the type of girl others girl flock to and welcome to their group. I will just never be this type of girl.
I’ve yet to find out what excludes or includes someone, but after years living this burden I can now easily tell who is who, and somehow I’ve made peace and I have found myself a group of out girls, and now I’ve become an in girl, in a group of out girls.
I need the girls to get DISGUSTED by a man never buying flowers, planning dates, building a bond, investing in & pouring love + effort into a good hearted woman that deserves it. GET DISGUSTED.
It should come NATURALLY for a man to want to have fun with you, take you out , feed you and do nice things for you. You should never have to teach someone to do that.
in the end, the girl who treats a man like a debit card always seems to come out on top. Meanwhile, the girls asking for nothing but attention, effort, and consistency end up in therapy trying to heal from it.
tolerating always turns into resentment. at first, you call it patience, then love. but what it really is, is self abandonment. every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. eventually, the bill comes due.